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Yes, I agree with you, it is your opinion. Everything depends on what the definition of "first move" is...but assertive is good...aggressive is scary.
Again, a real and confident man can deal with an aggressive women if it ever happens. You don't see many overly aggressive women unless they've had to much to drink.
Yes, I agree with you, it is your opinion. Everything depends on what the definition of "first move" is...but assertive is good...aggressive is scary.
But you seem to think the mere act of a woman giving you her number qualifies as aggression. To me, that's not aggressive at all. That's just showing initiative. Women always say they find confidence attractive. Most men I know say the same thing about women. If a woman comes up to me and, assuming she's not drunk, gives me her number or asks me out for a cup of coffee, that tells me she's a confident woman. It doesn't necessarily mean I'll call or go out with her. But I wouldn't categorize her as an aggressive woman, just one who's direct.
I'm all for either side making the first move. Lot's of people are wimps when it comes to this so if you are going to be all coy about things or play games your might not get anywhere. Nobody has a darn thing to loose by making a move.
But you seem to think the mere act of a woman giving you her number qualifies as aggression. To me, that's not aggressive at all. That's just showing initiative. Women always say they find confidence attractive. Most men I know say the same thing about women. If a woman comes up to me and, assuming she's not drunk, gives me her number or asks me out for a cup of coffee, that tells me she's a confident woman. It doesn't necessarily mean I'll call or go out with her. But I wouldn't categorize her as an aggressive woman, just one who's direct.
Why are you sitting there telling me that my perception of what was aggressive was wrong? I perceived it as aggressive and it turned me off. Surely I have the right to do what I please?
Being aggressive/assertive whatever the term is...works for many women with many different types of guys. I, personally, don't like it done to me. But why I don't like it personally done to me doesn't need to be said, cuz it wouldn't further any conversation on here.
Can't we just drop it. I'm allowed to dislike things.
Why are you sitting there telling me that my perception of what was aggressive was wrong? I perceived it as aggressive and it turned me off. Surely I have the right to do what I please?
We're all very curious because your perception of what qualifies as aggression in a woman seems extreme to us. I don't think anyone said you aren't entitled to your opinion.
So, to put words in your mouth...if an aggressive woman is one who gives you her number. I'd guess that an attractive girl for you would be one who sits at home waiting for you to knock on her door?
Hmm. I'd have made the assumption that you picked me out over other guys for some reason--and wouldn't "worry" about the fact that you approached me. Of course, I don't let it progress to sex very quickly, as I require some time to get to know and trust the person--a few weeks, at least.
That's open minded of you, but not all guys are like that. Your one in Mil
DennyCrane "This is a ridiculous claim. If a woman approached me first, I would not be wondering whether she's like this with every other guy. IMO, this is a mistake that too many women make. They worry too much about what the guy will think of him instead of just doing what they think is best."
I have been told more than by men that taking the lead with men have actually turned out to be a bad move because it is generally men who like to take control of a relationship on any level. Although your reaction is appreciated, it is not the norm with all men. If a women shows early on that she capable to control a man, or anything, some men back off and feel that the women is not trustworthy or even to dominant and the relationships do not progress.
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