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Thanks for the input everyone. Let's go with a hypothetical name of "Gina", and I call her on the phone.
"Hi Gina! I would like us to have dinner at the 'San Jose' Mexican restaurant tonight. I would like you to wear a short black mini skirt with heals, and a smile, and I'll pick you up at 7:00 pm."
How's that one?
Um.....no. "Challenging" doesn't mean "commanding". It just means don't be overly passive, predictable, or compliant. Have your own mind, express your opinions, don't be afraid to call me on my bulls*** (doing this without coming off as a jerk can be tricky, be careful), and be intellectually stimulating.
I can see how it could be either negative and positive, depending on what the woman is really thinking. Personally I wouldn't want to be in a relationship that seemed to be some kind of contest in which both partners feel like they constantly have to prove that they're at least equal or even better than one another in some way. I've read those words in online dating sites when a woman is describing herself and I think you'd have to actually meet the woman and get to know her before you could really understand what she's trying to say.
Thanks for the input everyone. Let's go with a hypothetical name of "Gina", and I call her on the phone.
"Hi Gina! I would like us to have dinner at the 'San Jose' Mexican restaurant tonight. I would like you to wear a short black mini skirt with heals, and a smile, and I'll pick you up at 7:00 pm."
How's that one?
Okay, I am beginning to think you don't really want help at all - you are just messing with people for laughs, right?
Thanks for the input everyone. Let's go with a hypothetical name of "Gina", and I call her on the phone.
"Hi Gina! I would like us to have dinner at the 'San Jose' Mexican restaurant tonight. I would like you to wear a short black mini skirt with heals, and a smile, and I'll pick you up at 7:00 pm."
Is the following an example of a "challenge" scenario?
Me: What route do you take to work every day?
Her: Oh, well I take route 123 loop every day.
Me: Well, that route doesn't seem very efficient. Do you think I-234 would be faster?
Her: Wow, I haven't thought about that. I will try it tomorrow!
Okay, I am beginning to think you don't really want help at all - you are just messing with people for laughs, right?
With the latest reply I was trying for the "James Bond" role as another poster mentioned.
I am very much interested in a relationship and so I will not try that line.
One thing I do not want to do is "pretend" to be someone else because that can be tough to keep up with.
From what I understand women need to grow comfortable with their man over time. They want their senses stimulated, to experience new and exciting things.
I really don't know at this point if I have enough "social" energy to date. So far it's been horrible. I would like to just be myself and hope to attract the right partner to me. I do know that I can do better with planning dates and dress well.
From what I read and heard the top two things women want are guys who are tall and funny. I'm only 5'5" tall and so I can't change that unless I get some stilts. I have some books on how to be funny and speak better so I can read those and practice.
Time is flying by though. Of all the challenges in my life dating is light years ahead of anything else. I see couples all over the place though and so this is why I need help.
One thing I do not want to do is "pretend" to be someone else because that can be tough to keep up with.
From what I understand women need to grow comfortable with their man over time. They want their senses stimulated, to experience new and exciting things.
I really don't know at this point if I have enough "social" energy to date. So far it's been horrible. I would like to just be myself and hope to attract the right partner to me. I do know that I can do better with planning dates and dress well.
Don't pretend, there's no good result from that. Get comfortable with yourself, like yourself, and let someone see that. Bond (and other guys like that) are hot because they're confident and comfortable with themselves. If you have interests or passions, you'd be new and exciting to someone out there.
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