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I was just thinking about this and whether it has any bearing on success or lack thereof at developing romantic relationships.
Off the top of my head, excluding family members, I have about 15 close female friends and roughly 3x that many acquaintances. By 'friend' I mean someone I'm close enough to confide in, get advice from, and who if I hadn't seen for awhile would give me a hug or invite me out to catch up. And by 'acquaintance' I mean someone who knows my name and will greet me with a smile and a handshake, ask how things are, what's new etc.
These women represent all ages, races, backgrounds, economic and relationship status, various religious and political leanings etc. Pretty much a cross-section of humanity. Most I see every week or so in person but a few I've never met and only know online.
Naturally with all this female interaction I'm regularly being introduced to or otherwise meeting new women and I make friends with them quickly and easily too. The question is, does any of this help me find Ms. Right? I would have to say yes. Most of the girls I'm introduced to through my social network are girls I wouldn't have otherwise met. And because of the setting they have a chance to get to know me without the tension of being cold approached by a stranger. As a result pretty much every girl I've gone out with initiated things by escalating our friendship to something more.
About 10 or so guy friends, with 2 or 3 being very close, and probably 20 or so others who are more acquaintances. I don't know if it's hurt or helped any romantic relationships, as I don't usually date guys in my group of friends, though it does make it easier to meet new guys in the beginning (before I decide whether to stay in "friend" mode). It is nice getting their perspective on things, though, and hanging out with a mixed group or a bunch of guys is a change from having a "girls night".
A lot of both. Guy friends are great though. They have your back, help you with your problems, and tell you straight out what they think. I love my guy friends. Also, if you are friends first and then lovers later, your relationship will be better.
I was just thinking about this and whether it has any bearing on success or lack thereof at developing romantic relationships.
If it does, it's pretty negligible. What's most important is your location! I use to know a lot of women when I lived in California because California is such a transient state with lots of things to do (I was even warned not to over indulge in women before I went!).
Now that I'm in Pa, in the burbs at that, it requires effort to make myself more socially available to the opposite sex.
Only 2 male friends but we have known each other from childhood. One is a year younger than me who I haven't seen since my 15th birthday and the other one is 4 years older (I was 8 when I first was introduced to him by my mother's friend) who I sometimes talk by my instant messenger on msn. That's the only single occasion I can think of when a man can be friend with a woman (at least for me)...... if we're introduced during our childhood years.
Now that I'm in Pa, in the burbs at that, it requires effort to make myself more socially available to the opposite sex.
Here in Wilkes-Barre, I first have to try to IDENTIFY the sex; THEN I can make myself more available to the opposite one.
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