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I recently met someone whose company I enjoy, but he doesn't fit anything on the mental checklist I have - keep in mind this is a checklist that has to do with me not repeating the same mistakes I have made in the past, so it is for MY benefit, to weed out men who are similar to men I've dated/married in the past (unsuccessfully, obviously).
So, this gentleman does not really fit any of the criteria, and he does bear a lot of the hallmarks of men I have dated in the past. To be fair I don't fit into a lot of the things he says he wants out of a relationship either. Yet here we are, dating and trying to make it work. I'm wondering if I'm being foolish...Any of you run into this sort of situation, making it work with someone who isn't necessarily your "type" ?
Throw away the checklist. Have him do the same. Stay together as long as it's fun. Once you feel like you get more negative than positive emotions out of the relationship, end it.
I recently met someone whose company I enjoy, but he doesn't fit anything on the mental checklist I have - keep in mind this is a checklist that has to do with me not repeating the same mistakes I have made in the past, so it is for MY benefit, to weed out men who are similar to men I've dated/married in the past (unsuccessfully, obviously).
So, this gentleman does not really fit any of the criteria, and he does bear a lot of the hallmarks of men I have dated in the past. To be fair I don't fit into a lot of the things he says he wants out of a relationship either. Yet here we are, dating and trying to make it work. I'm wondering if I'm being foolish...Any of you run into this sort of situation, making it work with someone who isn't necessarily your "type" ?
What are you "making work" though, exactly? You're simply wasting each others time money emotions etc. Are you both lonely? That is the only thing I can think of that would cause this type of relationship.
What is it that you enjoy about his company? What are the things that remind you of past men? Perhaps these are things that are common of most people and not necessary gender specific. There is a difference between red flags and common denominators in people. Are you able to filter the bad from the good or are you merely speculating based upon one or two small details?
I say, if you enjoy his company then keep it going until it either wears itself out, or turns into something more meaningful. Just don't sabotage the thing before it's had a chance to get off the ground.
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