How to forget about dating?

[carra]

Originally Posted by supermanpansy

The key is to REALLY stop looking, because by no means, shapes or forms have you.

Originally Posted by supermanpansy

This time honestly take a break from your long search and try to find happiness without being in a relationship.

Well I wish I could but I am afraid I don't know how to do that (hence the title of this thread). Yesterday for instance, a friend of mine picked up a girl. He's no ladies magnet, yet in the past few months he has already been with 2. Do you have any idea how that feels to me right now? And don't get me wrong, he's a good friend and I am glad for him. But that does not change my situation.

Most weekends I go out something happens that hurts me, so how would I really stop looking? The only way I can think of is just not going out at all.

[TurboJerry]

Originally Posted by carra

Well I wish I could but I am afraid I don't know how to do that (hence the title of this thread). Yesterday for instance, a friend of mine picked up a girl. He's no ladies magnet, yet in the past few months he has already been with 2. Do you have any idea how that feels to me right now? And don't get me wrong, he's a good friend and I am glad for him. But that does not change my situation.

Most weekends I go out something happens that hurts me, so how would I really stop looking? The only way I can think of is just not going out at all.

Hey I'm new to this forum, but I wouldn't look at what others are doing if I was you. It seems to me you have to develop your own style. My thinking has always been "expect nothing so you won't be disappointed when nothing happens". It may sound bad, but it will be much easier when you don't care what happens. Women can sense when a man tries too hard & it seems to be a turn off. I really don't know what your doing, but this is stuff that has helped my friends out many times... You just have to go out & get more experience. I hope I'm not just repeating what others said !

[supermanpansy]

Originally Posted by carra

Well I wish I could but I am afraid I don't know how to do that (hence the title of this thread). Yesterday for instance, a friend of mine picked up a girl. He's no ladies magnet, yet in the past few months he has already been with 2. Do you have any idea how that feels to me right now? And don't get me wrong, he's a good friend and I am glad for him. But that does not change my situation.

Most weekends I go out something happens that hurts me, so how would I really stop looking? The only way I can think of is just not going out at all.

I know, and I am not saying that it is easy. I think at one time or another that we all have dealt with these types of frustrations.

I really wish I had the answer for you. I guess if any of us truly had the answer to all of these types of problems then we would never be alone. I would try to not concentrate so much on what you don't have, and enjoy the things that you do. After all, relationships can sometimes be as difficult as they are rewarding.

As far as your friend, I understand that this can be very frustrating and that you feel left out. Even if your friend is not intentionally trying to make you feel bad, he still is. Maybe you ought to reconsider how much time that you want to invest with someone who somehow manages to make you feel worse about yourself. I know it sounds selfish and awful, and I am not suggesting that you cut your ties with this friend. However, if every time your around him or her and you feel less than and jealous, than what is it exactly are you benefiting from having this person in your life? Some people just like to flaunt their escapades.

I can tell you from personal experiences that my situation was the latter. I used to have a best friend for about ten years who never seemed to get any play (for lack of a better phrase). So when I did, I just wouldn't tell him about it. I knew that he wasn't getting any action, so there was no need to rub it in to him. However, some guys can really feel superior if their getting some and someone else isn't. Also, many guys lie about their conquests. I always thought this was pathetic, but I have seen many friends busted from saying that they have been with certain girls when they haven't.

To tell you the truth you seem like a really nice, honest, and sincere guy and I do really wish you well. I don't always write this much, but I can appreciate your humility and honesty in dealing with your situation. I can only wish you luck and hope that you find what your looking for. I know it's probably your best bet not to look, although I understand that that is easier said than done, but that seems to be when it comes for most people. Good luck.

[jackie100]

Well, for me it is easy because I have no friends and never go out. So I just stay home and entertain myself. All I need is the internet, tv, and food.

[Huckleberry3911948]

the reason god made them so lovely graceful and fun to be with is bek he knew you would have days like this, love never gives up, never.
signed
king of jade and bitter
ps get a cat
its not a woman but they are very similar
good practice