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As some of you may know, I did for a long time work on improving myself, trying to get noticed by women. Now, I have decided to give up on this: it's taking way too much time and effort inverted for practically no results. So, from my perspective, I'd rather stop this now and forget about dating/women for now before I end getting bitter and jaded of the whole thing.
However, while on working days I have little problem not thinking about it, the weekends are a quite differente story. There is usually some of the guys we know kissing a new girl, or maybe we hear about X woman interested in a friend, or maybe we just meet some random new girl. And whatever it is, it will remind me of my missed opportunities and make me feel bad the next day.
So, those of you who have given up before me, I need your help. How do you cope with this when you go out? I would like to just go out and have fun, but I find it difficult some days.
If you are having fun and enjoying life, you don't have to actively try to forget about dating..and why would you want to forget about dating anyway?
I have no problem with my life, aside from dating. Since I am not able to solve this problem I would like to remove it from my life. Unfortunately, when I watch the ease with which some guys do what I have tried so hard to do, and the little they value it, it hurts me deeply. At that very moment I can maybe not pay too much attention to it, if I am having fun with my friends. But the next day I will inevitably start thinking about it.
I think it's because human beings crave to have a companion. By telling yourself I don't want to think about such and such thing is what is going to make you think about it even more. When someone is trying to diet, food looks even better, it's the same idea here. You probably aren't going to ever NOT think about dating. Even when I was quite content being single I would assess the people around me, which guys I would consider dating or not, and always secretly hope I would magically meet the man of my dreams at the grocery store or wherever I was going that day. I always wanted a significant other, and was not interested in the dating game or being "free"...Why is that you have to forget about dating all together? That doesn't make any sense, you will then cut out any opportunity of meeting someone.
Well then I will admit I am completely lost here cieramc. If I can't solve my dating issues and I can't forget about it, what am I supposed to do? Just wait and hope "love appears when you least expect it"? Well, I could but let's be realistic here... no fairy tales
Post an ad on craiglist for a "pretend girlfriend" and basically she will be someone who will tell you what you are doing wrong and help you get a sexy style and have initimate moments.
If that don't help you forget about dating nothing will
As some of you may know, I did for a long time work on improving myself, trying to get noticed by women. Now, I have decided to give up on this: it's taking way too much time and effort inverted for practically no results. So, from my perspective, I'd rather stop this now and forget about dating/women for now before I end getting bitter and jaded of the whole thing.
However, while on working days I have little problem not thinking about it, the weekends are a quite differente story. There is usually some of the guys we know kissing a new girl, or maybe we hear about X woman interested in a friend, or maybe we just meet some random new girl. And whatever it is, it will remind me of my missed opportunities and make me feel bad the next day.
So, those of you who have given up before me, I need your help. How do you cope with this when you go out? I would like to just go out and have fun, but I find it difficult some days.
Pick a hobby or special interest that will make you more attractive to women.
Pick a hobby or special interest that will make you more attractive to women.
For that same reason I started dancing salsa about 1 year ago. It certainly helped me to make new friends and all that, but not in dating...
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