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I was trying to hold back on that joke. I didn't want to be too mean to the OP.
oh Chowhound, please - lol, even if you need to send it in DM, please explain this joke!
And I meant no offense to the OP. To bounce back on topic, I don't consider it insulting to be hit on on a regular basis (but I wouldn't know, really) - but I suppose I would feel a bit depressed if it were consistently men that I really wasn't asking for the extra attention from to begin with. It's quality, not quantity!
If someone has never experienced it before getting hit on, can be overwhelming. At the risk of being accused of conceit, I have a very nice rear and I've had men talking to my chest since the girls popped out and it's still disturbing to have men leering. I can't imagine what it's like for someone who was virtually ignored by men to now have their attention.
To the OP: Just take your time and stick to your guns. There really are decent guys out there but it's like looking for the perfect item at a huge sale: everyone else wants the same thing and it takes time and a few elbows to get it.
If someone has never experienced it before getting hit on, can be overwhelming. At the risk of being accused of conceit, I have a very nice rear and I've had men talking to my chest since the girls popped out and it's still disturbing to have men leering. I can't imagine what it's like for someone who was virtually ignored by men to now have their attention.
To the OP: Just take your time and stick to your guns. There really are decent guys out there but it's like looking for the perfect item at a huge sale: everyone else wants the same thing and it takes time and a few elbows to get it.
Thank you so much CESpeed. Yeah, you would think it would be something we would like, and just soak it all in, but instead its kinda creepy feeling....lol.
If you guys can't wait to just try and get us in the sack, isn't that an insult?
I don't think I find it flattering, because shouldn't you be attracted to ME and my personality enough to not want so bad to jump in the sack?
It is really weird these last few months.....spring is in the air or something...
I am trying to dress as geeky as possible, sweater vests, collars etc, not showing any skin etc, and it seems worse every day the amount trying to get in there....
I am feeling sad about it.
Don't beat yourself up about it. You must be fairly attractive or these guys would not be trying so hard! That should make you feel good about yourself instead of sad! Don't fall for the ones who only have this in mind and nothing else. I believe you said that you have a SO currently? He should be very proud and lucky to find a woman that can be trusted under pressure!! Rugged
I believe you said that you have a SO currently? He should be very proud and lucky to find a woman that can be trusted under pressure!! Rugged
What Rugged said.
For those telling the OP to get over herself, I have to say that isn't productive. Women aren't dumb. We know when men are checking us out, we know when we're being hit on, and we know when a lecher is targeting us. There can also be a big psychological impact on newly svelte women who are unaccustomed to such attention. More than a few are uncomfortable with it simply because they're not used to it. Others have deeper reasons why it makes them uncomfortable, including prior sexual trauma and abuse. Theories abound about women who deliberately do what Misswee joked about: They gain back the weight so they can be back in their comfort zone.
Not saying Misswee has been through anything heavy, nor am I trying to psychoanalyze anyone. Just saying. You don't know what the lady sitting on the other end of the connection has been through.
And not for nothing, but--and I'm donning my asbestos suit when I say this because I expect the usual nasties to gad about--being attractive enough to be hit on a lot has its own set of issues. You've got jealous shrews, people who seem to think that "good-looking" is synonymous with "stupid," and yes, men who sweet talk, misrepresent themselves, and outright lie left and right just to get laid, and only to get laid.
Oh, and then there are people who assume that because you're good-looking, you must be full of yourself and need to be brought down a notch, perhaps by being told to get over yourself.
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For those telling the OP to get over herself, I have to say that isn't productive. Women aren't dumb. We know when men are checking us out, we know when we're being hit on, and we know when a lecher is targeting us. There can also be a big psychological impact on newly svelte women who are unaccustomed to such attention. More than a few are uncomfortable with it simply because they're not used to it. Others have deeper reasons why it makes them uncomfortable, including prior sexual trauma and abuse. Theories abound about women who deliberately do what Misswee joked about: They gain back the weight so they can be back in their comfort zone.
Not saying Misswee has been through anything heavy, nor am I trying to psychoanalyze anyone. Just saying. You don't know what the lady sitting on the other end of the connection has been through.
And not for nothing, but--and I'm donning my asbestos suit when I say this because I expect the usual nasties to gad about--being attractive enough to be hit on a lot has its own set of issues. You've got jealous shrews, people who seem to think that "good-looking" is synonymous with "stupid," and yes, men who sweet talk, misrepresent themselves, and outright lie left and right just to get laid, and only to get laid.
Oh, and then there are people who assume that because you're good-looking, you must be full of yourself and need to be brought down a notch, perhaps by being told to get over yourself.
Wow. There is sooo much understanding in that post it is the emotional equvalent of an awesome best friend bear hug.
Pretty on the inside like that cant be valued enough.
Oh, and then there are people who assume that because you're good-looking, you must be full of yourself and need to be brought down a notch, perhaps by being told to get over yourself.
I told her to get over herself, not to "put her down a notch" but as a reality check. It ain't that big of a deal. Yes some men are pigs and want to get laid and laid only. Some aren't.
Life is full of problems. This one rates pretty low. IMHO. So I think some perspective is in order.
Again, JMHO.
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I can't imagine what it's like for someone who was virtually ignored by men to now have their attention.
