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I'm sorry, I didn't explain how it related to the topic. The fact is, many "skinny" people intentionally take extra time out of their lives to exercise, going to the gym, or just spending quality time exercising. And I consider that wasteful.
I think chasing criminals is boring. Going fishing is boring. Drinking for 3 hours straight is excessive. But working out, I consider it delightful.
I didn't comment on whether or not it was "boring". I simply stated I felt it was a waste of TIME. I get all the exercise I need at work, or during my commute. I work freight at night, and I usually walk an hour each way, both to and from my job.
I didn't comment on whether or not it was "boring". I simply stated I felt it was a waste of TIME. I get all the exercise I need at work, or during my commute. I work freight at night, and I usually walk an hour each way, both to and from my job.
Well then it is a waste of time for you. But not for others.
That depends on where you live. Here in Los Angeles (especially in my neck of the woods that includes Sherman Oaks, Studio City, Encino, Calabasas, Woodland Hills) the vast majority ARE in decent shape. Probably wont be the case if you go to Little Rock, Atlanta or Tupelo.
OP, seriously, you REALLY think normal-sized women get a bad rap in the dating world? I mean really? That is just plain silly.
I am not normal sized but petite. I don't diet and I don't watch what I eat but I'm 31 and I'm a size 00 and I weigh 90lbs (I'm 4'11" though so this is the perfect weight for me). I cannot help it that I'm size 00. I'm asian and no matter how much I eat I just don't get fat. I eat and eat and eat but I can't help but stay the same size!
Most guys love big girls now, big asses. I think it's mainly due to porn. The majority of porn girls are big (compared to me) and have bigger butts and sites like Bangbros, Assparade etc are wildly popular and I think a lot of men today just love bigger women. Even celebs are big such as Kim Kardashian and JLO. No matter how much I eat my body can NEVER get as big as JLO or Kim K. I am just not built like that.
I have had ex bf's tell me he wished I was bigger (NOT taller but THICKER) and had a huge butt. I mean I eat loads of In N Out burgers and ice cream but I'm still a size 00.
I can't help it that I am petite. My other ex was into a lot of porn and all the porn he watched was "big ass girls", Assparade etc and those women are mostly probably size 5 and up. He said he has always preferred bigger girls and at first I wasn't his type because I'm too small. I just have SMALL BONES and a small frame. I have some meat on my bones, it's just that my BONES ARE SMALL!
I have noticed a preference for guys to prefer "bigger girls", not fat but just bigger in general.
I am not normal sized but petite. I don't diet and I don't watch what I eat but I'm 31 and I'm a size 00 and I weigh 90lbs (I'm 4'11" though so this is the perfect weight for me). I cannot help it that I'm size 00. I'm asian and no matter how much I eat I just don't get fat. I eat and eat and eat but I can't help but stay the same size!
Most guys love big girls now, big asses. I think it's mainly due to porn. The majority of porn girls are big (compared to me) and have bigger butts and sites like Bangbros, Assparade etc are wildly popular and I think a lot of men today just love bigger women. Even celebs are big such as Kim Kardashian and JLO. No matter how much I eat my body can NEVER get as big as JLO or Kim K. I am just not built like that.
I have had ex bf's tell me he wished I was bigger (NOT taller but THICKER) and had a huge butt. I mean I eat loads of In N Out burgers and ice cream but I'm still a size 00.
I can't help it that I am petite. My other ex was into a lot of porn and all the porn he watched was "big ass girls", Assparade etc and those women are mostly probably size 5 and up. He said he has always preferred bigger girls and at first I wasn't his type because I'm too small. I just have SMALL BONES and a small frame. I have some meat on my bones, it's just that my BONES ARE SMALL!
I have noticed a preference for guys to prefer "bigger girls", not fat but just bigger in general.
Men like big Asses due to Porn!! HAHA Jealous much? There is porn for every different type and I'd think there were more "ASIAN PORN" around than "big ass girls" but what the hey. Body type and attractiveness is due to preference and what we subconsciously look for in a potential mate - To create the offspring we desire.
Fashion and what's attractive has changed in the ages. BIG ASSES were seen as a bad thing before J'lo and gang and big shoulders and breasts were the in thing in the 80's. Men don't always follows fashion. They like what they like and to be honest I would think the majority like normal sized girls with big breasts, big bums, hips and a smallish waist. But there are guys who like obese women and guys who prefer slim, flat chested girls.
No one should feel left out as there is always a guy where you are exactly their type whatever your shape or size.
I don't think porn should be blamed it's just rolling with the times.
Men like big Asses due to Porn!! HAHA Jealous much? There is porn for every different type and I'd think there were more "ASIAN PORN" around than "big ass girls" but what the hey. Body type and attractiveness is due to preference and what we subconsciously look for in a potential mate - To create the offspring we desire.
Fashion and what's attractive has changed in the ages. BIG ASSES were seen as a bad thing before J'lo and gang and big shoulders and breasts were the in thing in the 80's. Men don't always follows fashion. They like what they like and to be honest I would think the majority like normal sized girls with big breasts, big bums, hips and a smallish waist. But there are guys who like obese women and guys who prefer slim, flat chested girls.
No one should feel left out as there is always a guy where you are exactly their type whatever your shape or size.
I don't think porn should be blamed it's just rolling with the times.
I'm not blaming porn. My ex bf told me that the reason why he preferred big asses is because he watches a lot of porn within the "big ass niche" since that is his fetish and he was the one that claimed that's why he preferred big asses; cause he used to jack off to it all the time. That's what HE said. Those are HIS words. I'm not blaming porn at all. Girls with curves are in-style now.
I have heard a lot of guys say that they don't like petite girls. Actually one of the reasons why one of my ex bf's broke up with me (not my ex who watched Bangbros all the time but the one before that) is because I was too small and didn't have enough ass for him. When we first met he was ok with it cause he was smaller and I was smaller but when he was older he just started liking "bigger girls", especially a big ass and boobs. He said I would be a perfect 10" if I gained a lot of weight, got tattoos (he thinks women with tats are sexy) and got a boob job. I semi-refused the boob job so that's why I was dumped.
I'm not blaming porn. My ex bf told me that the reason why he preferred big asses is because he watches a lot of porn within the "big ass niche" since that is his fetish and he was the one that claimed that's why he preferred big asses; cause he used to jack off to it all the time. That's what HE said. Those are HIS words. I'm not blaming porn at all. Girls with curves are in-style now.
I have heard a lot of guys say that they don't like petite girls. Actually one of the reasons why one of my ex bf's broke up with me (not my ex who watched Bangbros all the time but the one before that) is because I was too small and didn't have enough ass for him. When we first met he was ok with it cause he was smaller and I was smaller but when he was older he just started liking "bigger girls", especially a big ass and boobs. He said I would be a perfect 10" if I gained a lot of weight, got tattoos (he thinks women with tats are sexy) and got a boob job. I semi-refused the boob job so that's why I was dumped.
I apologise I did take what you said as "porn was to blame for what you ex liked" - He started watching big ass porn and then preferred this type.
Your ex changed his shape and then changed his type. That's not your fault - There was no way that could have been predicted or even prevented that. I'm glad you didn't try to change as guys like that are never worth the effort in the first place.
I know girl's that would kill for a figure like yours and guys that will ONLY date slim girls. Put your self in the position of the Obese girl that has too many curves. She's at the other end of the scale (pun not intended) and will find dieting hard - She'll think she has to diet to get a guy but it will be the wrong guy as she has to change to fit his type. There are no wrong types just wrong types looking in all the wrong places.
I apologise I did take what you said as "porn was to blame for what you ex liked" - He started watching big ass porn and then preferred this type.
Your ex changed his shape and then changed his type. That's not your fault - There was no way that could have been predicted or even prevented that. I'm glad you didn't try to change as guys like that are never worth the effort in the first place.
I know girl's that would kill for a figure like yours and guys that will ONLY date slim girls. Put your self in the position of the Obese girl that has too many curves. She's at the other end of the scale (pun not intended) and will find dieting hard - She'll think she has to diet to get a guy but it will be the wrong guy as she has to change to fit his type. There are no wrong types just wrong types looking in all the wrong places.
Thanks You are correct on all counts.
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Originally Posted by TKramar
I'm sorry, I didn't explain how it related to the topic. The fact is, many "skinny" people intentionally take extra time out of their lives to exercise, going to the gym, or just spending quality time exercising. And I consider that wasteful.
I don't take a lot of time out to exercise but I sure spend a lot of time, money and energy on my looks and fashion. For example, I take very long to get ready (at least one hour) since I'm high maintenance. I spend hours online reading about makeup on makeupalley. I spend a lot on cosmetics, products etc. For me spending my time that way IS quality time, even if it isn't to you. Taking the time to beautifying myself IS quality time. Who are you to judge others because they exercise? To them that IS their quality time.
What else are you supposed to spend your time on if not on yourself? Saving the world? Feeding the hungry? Give me a break. We can spend our free time however we want. There's nothing wrong with spending it all on yourself.
Jealousy! Envy.
Go anywhere in public and have a look at the vast amount of blimps. Skinny and normal sized women are a minority.
Actually, it's because we tend to gain weight as we age. Why would I date a guy fixated on weight (was skinny until I was 30 and normal sized through most of my 30's). Now, I'm, as a southern gentleman once said "Built for comfort not for speed". Why would I want to be with a guy who is going to dump me in 20 years because I gained weight? No woman wants to live in fear that she'll put on weight and lose her husband so we shy away from men who are overly concerned with our weight.
I was skinny in my 20's but would not want to date a man who had this as a prerequisite for dating any more than men with the potential to go bald would want a woman who insisted on a full head of hair. I learned by the age of 19 that most men were concerned with what I was built like. By then I had one dating rule. If you had a full head of hair, you were out. I found that bald men (the ones who don't do the combover or wear a rug) were more forgiving of flaws than good looking men with a full head of hair so I stopped dating men with hair.
We want someone who wants us for us not for what we look like. Looks change. None of us can hang on to youth. Few of us will look good in a bikini at 50. Why set yourself up for failure by hooking up with a guy who is into looks?
Yes, it's shallow to want only skinny or normal sized women. Most of us won't stay that way as we age.
A secure person doesn't care what other people think of his or her dating preferences. It's only the 'insecure' that have to fall into line with what 'John' or 'Betty' thinks of his or her preference.
A secure person also doesn't ridicule who others choose to date/marry. Why does it matter to you if "John's" wife is 100 lbs and size 3, or Tina's husband is 300 lbs. or if Martha is seeing a guy who is shorter than she is?
I really never gave a damn about 'judging others' about who they are with and don't expect them to do it to me. If they do, well, that's THEIR problem.
Applying labels to others is how 'losers' feel better about themselves. So if your best friend dates a 230 lb. woman, he has to be somehow 'wacky' to see her as attractive and if you like 'average sized' women then you are 'okay'. Or visa versa...
What I don't like is that the media tries to make anyone 'over a certain weight' feel as if they do not deserve 'love and affection' until they hit some magic number.
Meanwhile, in the real world, we have people of all shapes and sizes dating and marrying every day. And, we have plenty of skinny, thin, handsome, attractive, fat, obese people sitting home never dating, never meeting anyone.
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You are correct on all counts. 
