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Old 04-21-2010, 12:59 PM
 
Location: down south
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usually when things fall apart, the blame goes both ways; when an society experiences sharp jump in certain undesired activities, each and every member of the society shares the blame, albeit indirectly for a lot of them. So when things don't go according to your wishes, it won't hurt to look at yourself just in case, you know, quite often it's not the jackassness of the other side that's the problem.

Just sayin'.
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Old 04-21-2010, 01:01 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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In other words, when things aren't going well for you, look first in the mirror before you start looking for blame elsewhere.
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Old 04-21-2010, 01:53 PM
 
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usually when things fall apart, the blame goes both ways; when an society experiences sharp jump in certain undesired activities, each and every member of the society shares the blame, albeit indirectly for a lot of them. So when things don't go according to your wishes, it won't hurt to look at yourself just in case, you know, quite often it's not the jackassness of the other side that's the problem.

Just sayin'.
true. people should take more responsibility for their situations.
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Old 10-01-2011, 03:02 PM
 
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Individuals are responsible for their behavior. But, what a lot of white folks & too many black folks don't want to deal with is the history of it all. If you don't know from whence it comes, you cannot accurately identify or comprehend the eccense of it. People have to be taught what responsibility is & how to assume it. It isn't innate. We are not born knowing how to be responsible. If you could see the households that some kids come from, you would be amazed that they function on any level of normalcy at all. I see girls no older than 14 or 15 cursing at their 2 & 3 year old children & beating them like you would get arrested for beating animals out in public, like "that's just how we roll". They have no freakin' idea of how to raise a child, but they have them & the children are the result of that parenting. Black people were brought to America to be worked to death and discarded. Slavery meant being a prisoner for life in a culture that used skin color as the uniform to identify who was not human, but chattel. You cannot understand what is happening just through the anecdotal, everyday personal experiences of your life. It is much larger than that. Pointing fingers is such a waste of time. Let's try to understand the context of the history that has brought us to where we are so we can effectively change the situation we find ourselves in as a culture.
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Old 10-01-2011, 03:09 PM
 
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It all begins with you, with self. But, what exactly does self consist of? Are you the recipient of genetic inheritances? Are you conditioned by family culture, education, socio-economic factors, etc.? Yes, you are responsible for the choices you make & the results of those choices. But, not all of us are able to make good, healthy, logical, reasonable choices because we have never learned how to do so. It isn't mitigating bad behavior. It is an effort to examine why our society is going to hell so quicly & why character building has been abandoned in the chase for "bling".
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Old 10-01-2011, 03:12 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I'm all about personal responsibility in everything
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Old 10-01-2011, 05:12 PM
 
Location: S.W.PA
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This SHOULD BE obvious, but so many people are unable to consider the possibility that there may be another legitimate point of view. If I have problems with my spouse, I always consider that I may have some responsibility for the situation, even though I may not understand exactly what it is,
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