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So my mother who has never been married,always says that she doesn't believe in marriage,but yet her brother(my uncle) is coming to visit her and he wants to bring his girlfriend along,but my mom says if he does they're not allowed to sleep in the same bed in her apartment since they're not married. My mom is doing this because she said this was how she was raised.
Your mom is neurotic. She's also a hypocrite being not married, but having a kid. Hellloooo? Do I have to spell it out for you?
How can you tell if someone a teenager by their writing?
You keep asking this silly question, so I guess it must be important to you, which again, makes me think you are very young (19?).
It's a question of writing style. Yours reveals the mind of a young person, not a full grown woman. But that's no big deal, it was just an observation.
You keep asking this silly question, so I guess it must be important to you, which again, makes me think you are very young (19?).
It's a question of writing style. Yours reveals the mind of a young person, not a full grown woman. But that's no big deal, it was just an observation.
Read her other posts, that should tell you everything.
So my mother who has never been married,always says that she doesn't believe in marriage,but yet her brother(my uncle) is coming to visit her and he wants to bring his girlfriend along,but my mom says if he does they're not allowed to sleep in the same bed in her apartment since they're not married. My mom is doing this because she said this was how she was raised.
Firstly, your mom decides what rules apply in her life and in her house.
Granted, it seems she is contradiction of this rule of "no sleeping in the same bed since they're not married," one can extrapolate a lot of assumptions:
1. If she did not sleep in the same bed as your biological father, she's still within her rule, technically.
2. She is adhering to notions of traditions she learned or know of from her childhood; thus it becomes the default solution / answer for her in situations that do not normally come up, like your uncle visit with his girlfriend.
3. Not to sound judgmental, perhaps your mom thought it a mistake on her past to engage is sexual activities prior to marriage--but does not regret having you for a daughter. Life happens, and she (your mom) is taking on the responsibility of her past decisions.
Perhaps in a way, she still wants to let you know that she loves you for whatever decisions she made, and even if you're an adult now, she would like to still project the "right" way of living to you.
4. If she let these unmarried couple share the bed in her room, does that mean she condones the same kind of behavior for you--if you happen to visit her one day with your boyfriend?
5. One of the latest saying of Dr Laura lately is that having sex with a girlfriend is like having an unpaid w-****.
So my mother who has never been married,always says that she doesn't believe in marriage,but yet her brother(my uncle) is coming to visit her and he wants to bring his girlfriend along,but my mom says if he does they're not allowed to sleep in the same bed in her apartment since they're not married. My mom is doing this because she said this was how she was raised.
How old is this guy? 16?
Your mom can decide who sleeps where in her house, but assuming her brother is an independent adult, I think her stipulation is absurd.
I could completely understand her requirement if the person involved was a teen/kid. But if her brother is a responsible, indepedent adult I think her "rule" is puritanical and judgmental to the point of being offensive.
Secondly the purpose of a bed is primarily sleep. Who cares where anyone sleeps? If you are visiting relatives and staying in their spare bedroom, it would be rude to start in with noisey sex in their home. So assuming that the guest will not be shaking the house with bed-rocking, it should not matter where they sleep.
Your mom can decide who sleeps where in her house, but assuming her brother is an independent adult, I think her stipulation is absurd.
I could completely understand her requirement if the person involved was a teen/kid. But if her brother is a responsible, indepedent adult I think her "rule" is puritanical and judgmental to the point of being offensive.
How old is what guy?
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it's unlikely they'll "do it" while there, I think.
