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But according to the OP the girl doesn't even know what's going on. It's the OP's male friend who's expressed an interest in possibly asking the girl out on a date and at this stage of the game I think he should just mind his own business before making a big production about what could be a non-issue.
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Originally Posted by Avienne
Exactly. For all he knows, she may not even want to go out with the guy. Say he tells the guy, and the guy expresses interest in the woman, and she's not interested. Then the OP has blabbed something deeply personal about his female friend over a whole lot of nothing. Meanwhile, the male friend knows and heaven only knows how he handles rejection. Maybe he's a tool like the guys often discussed on other threads. Next thing you know, everyone in their social group knows the woman has herpes.
No. What I said was...explain the issue to the girl....FIRST. Find out is there is even any interest there before saying anything further.
Herpes is catchy...It would not be everywhere if it was not. Herpes can also hide in the system from blood tests. You will not be immune to herpes unless you already have herpes. Even then you can catch different types. Cold sores on the mouth are also herpes.
That being said I would tell. She could give him herpes and he could carry it just thinking its jock itch. Down the line if he gave it to his wife when pregnant it could kill or blind the baby. There are times when it can be serious. I personally would just tell him that he should stay away because she is not upfront about her health. Personally I think that usually bleeds over into other areas. Its not a good way to treat people at all. So if she does not care about it..what else is she not going to care about? If she hates you for telling him you can tell her its because she has a history of lying. Its not socially responsible for her to do that.
My opinion is to have a talk with the female friend about it. Be respectful, but let her know that he needs to be told before anything happens. And to the person that said he deserves it if he doesn't wear a condom, you're an idiot..
Yes, a little education on the subject appears to be in order here. One of my ex-boyfriends was married for several years to a woman with Herpes. He didn't catch it (and for the doubters, yes he did get tested for it)
I know someone who's been married for 18 years with herpes and their spouse HAS NOT contracted it. And yes, they have an active sex life.
No. What I said was...explain the issue to the girl....FIRST. Find out is there is even any interest there before saying anything further.
It's not his place to share that information, period.
And for those who are saying, "I would want someone to tell me," what--you don't take it upon yourself to find out these things about your partners, yourself?
It's not his place to share that information, period.
And for those who are saying, "I would want someone to tell me," what--you don't take it upon yourself to find out these things about your partners, yourself?
EXACTLY. Just like people should take it upon themselves to always use protection and/or abstain from sex until a real relationship has developed.
Maybe u can tell him without telling him. I mean maybe u can say something like u know if this is ur choice make sure u r careful. "Never be without a raincoat or u will get something soap and water won't wash off." Of course he is going to want more information, but u say "I can't put anyones business out there, but u have been warned.... look before u leap." I know it seems a little week, but you will have given him enough information to deter him hopefully and not told the girls business exactly.
Exactly. For all he knows, she may not even want to go out with the guy. Say he tells the guy, and the guy expresses interest in the woman, and she's not interested. Then the OP has blabbed something deeply personal about his female friend over a whole lot of nothing. Meanwhile, the male friend knows and heaven only knows how he handles rejection. Maybe he's a tool like the guys often discussed on other threads. Next thing you know, everyone in their social group knows the woman has herpes.
Yes, my thoughts. I posted in another forum about weight watchers and everybody said that it should be kept a secret yet I think disclosing that somebody has herpes is far more personal that attending Weight Watchers
It's not his place to share that information, period.
And for those who are saying, "I would want someone to tell me," what--you don't take it upon yourself to find out these things about your partners, yourself?
You must not have read my first post. I said nothing about telling HIM that information - I said NOT to.
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I said nothing about telling HIM that information - I said NOT to.
