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What I find odd is that she will be comfortable hugging anyone else, and even moreso with a potential boyfriend, but she struggles to hug me. The only time I got a hug from her in my 8 years of knowing her was because she was freaking out about a Halloween party some years ago, and I made everything work. It was more like a surprise half-hug, and it caught me off guard...
I know I don't stink because I bathe daily....lol
...so what is it? She says I'm like a brother to her, but hell, I hug my brother from time to time.
The fact that you've thought so much about this when others would have probably shrugged it off or not noticed makes me wonder if perhaps you have romantic feelings for her. If so, she may be keeping her distance as not to lead you on or get caught in an uncomfortable position. Or, maybe she has a boyfriend and doesn't want to make him jealous by hugging you.
The fact that you've thought so much about this when others would have probably shrugged it off or not noticed makes me wonder if perhaps you have romantic feelings for her. If so, she may be keeping her distance as not to lead you on or get caught in an uncomfortable position. Or, maybe she has a boyfriend and doesn't want to make him jealous by hugging you.
Well, if that's the case, she would have never offered me to live with her. We lived together for 5 years and nothing happened. Even after I moved out we still hang out and stuff, and she still invites me over, but I was just wondering. Her other friends hug her all the time. But why keep her distance when she sees me all the time?
The fact that you've thought so much about this when others would have probably shrugged it off or not noticed makes me wonder if perhaps you have romantic feelings for her. If so, she may be keeping her distance as not to lead you on or get caught in an uncomfortable position. Or, maybe she has a boyfriend and doesn't want to make him jealous by hugging you.
Maybe you are too obvious with your little crush on her. Maybe she sees you have romantic feelings for her (it shows with the way you seem a little jealous of others she hugs) and doesn't want to ruin your friendship by leading you on.
I HAD a crush on a my best friend, but I got over that. I was just wondering. Like when I drop her off at the airport, etc...those kind of situations, but you all are only seeing is that there is possibly some sort of romantic thing I have for this woman.
So you guys don't hug your good friends goodbye/hello? Is there something wrong with that?
Wow, I could have written the same post the OP did. My best friend has always been a female. I never had a crush on her, though, but she used to have a crush on me.
Because of that, she would hug every single person she knew, except me for some reason. She even changed out of a shirt and into a bikini top in front of six guys and only made ME turn around. No joke--six lucky dudes got to see her boobs and I had to turn around--and I was her best friend.
Again, I didn't have a crush on her, but she had one on me, but she didn't admit it until about fifteen years later. Then it all made sense, but those were some weird fifteen years.
But it DOES matter, OP. I totally understand what you are saying here. It's hurtful when a friend treats you differently than other people, especially in my case when it's a best friend.
We are still going through this a little bit today. We talk on the phone every day, but she never makes time to SEE me; yet she will get together with mere acquaintances at the drop of a hat. I am thinking that her crush may be back and while talking on the phone is okay, she is too scared to see me in person. Who knows! Or maybe she knows I will never have a crush on her and she resents me that she can't shake her crush on me?
Chalk it up to the probable fact that women are mysterious creatures whom we'll never understand and simply move on.
Here's a thought: women find it easy to have male admirers and lovers and booty calls and all that, but they often complain of not having many friends - "true" friends. Perhaps even the whiff of impropriety - of some sexual feelings being brought in to spoil the friendship - is strong enough to make her avoid any potentially compromising situation.
I HAD a crush on a my best friend, but I got over that. I was just wondering. Like when I drop her off at the airport, etc...those kind of situations, but you all are only seeing is that there is possibly some sort of romantic thing I have for this woman.
So you guys don't hug your good friends goodbye/hello? Is there something wrong with that?
I guess it really doesn't matter.
Have you tried talking to her about this?
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