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I would never hit or beat my kids....but that's because by the time I want to hit them I also want to kill them...so better safe than sorry. Oh and they have no fear of me in the literal sense...but I kind of like it that way.
Our children have grown up (and almost grown up, some still in high school) to be decent, loving, respectful, responsible people. We raised them with clear boundries, direct consequenses and lots of listening - both ways. They have been told every day of their lives that they are loved, with that they know who is boss in our home.
To hit a child is to teach control through shame, violence and oppression. There is far too much of that in our world and as far as I can see, it has not made the world a better place.
Thank God for people who think like you. I was raised in a household who believed in not sparing the rod and it only taught me how I did not want to raise my children. I believe parents should try to educate themselves on less violent ways to effectively discipline their children. Spanking should at least be reserved as a very last resort.
Whenever the Devil tried to tempt Jesus, Jesus would start out saying, "It is written...". We as parents should raise our children by educating ourselves first about discipline and next by EXAMPLE.
I have to agree that a spanking is sometimes needed. Thats whats wrong with our kids today. Permissive childrearing. The kids are running the households. Not God, not the parents. However I do believe that spankings should be a last resort. Parents have just gotten lazy, they cant get off the couch, go to the child, explain why they cant do this or that, etc. Children are not meant to be endured, they are to be loved, cherished and enjoyed. Ive seen great parents, who never spank, and Ive seen parents who scream, slap, etc. who arent in my book good parents. Kids are just little people, who need us as parents to guide them.
I was never spanked growing up and have never spanked my own child. There is NEVER a reason to hit a child, all it teaches them is fear and violence. I think that this kind of punishment is not only archaic but just plain lazy. Far easier to give them a spanking then to explain why you feel they are in the wrong and give an appropriate punishment for extreme behaviour. That "sparing the rod and spoiling the child" quote has been used for far too long as an excuse for child abuse. You are not allowed to treat animals in this way, why would you do it to your own child?
I was never spanked growing up and have never spanked my own child. There is NEVER a reason to hit a child, all it teaches them is fear and violence. I think that this kind of punishment is not only archaic but just plain lazy. Far easier to give them a spanking then to explain why you feel they are in the wrong and give an appropriate punishment for extreme behaviour. That "sparing the rod and spoiling the child" quote has been used for far too long as an excuse for child abuse. You are not allowed to treat animals in this way, why would you do it to your own child?
"TRAIN up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Prov.xxii,6.
This can also mean, if you are a child beater, he/she will turn out to be a child beater. Strange how in many Jewish households, more love and tolerance is shown and they ess. read the same book?
Ever wondered why gandparents do not "beat" their grandkids? Second chance.
Some of the responses in this thread lead me to ask: isn't there a difference between "spanking" and "beating?" The former is discipline, the latter is abuse, no?
"TRAIN up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Prov.xxii,6.
This can also mean, if you are a child beater, he/she will turn out to be a child beater. Strange how in many Jewish households, more love and tolerance is shown and they ess. read the same book?
Ever wondered why gandparents do not "beat" their grandkids? Second chance.
"TRAIN up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Prov.xxii,6.
This can also mean, if you are a child beater, he/she will turn out to be a child beater. Strange how in many Jewish households, more love and tolerance is shown and they ess. read the same book?
Ever wondered why gandparents do not "beat" their grandkids? Second chance.
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Oh and they have no fear of me in the literal sense...but I kind of like it that way.
examples implied?
