Sick Father's "non-rent" paying roommate is becoming difficult - obstructing care.

[sware2cod]

Sleep on the sofa. You cannot just decide to move in and kick Bob out without discussing with your father. That's his choice, not yours. You shouldn't even put him in the position to have to choose. Bob has been helping your father and your father might need him later. You might need Bob later.

Just sleep on the sofa and don't say anything about kicking out Bob. Bring Bob along for appts or swap caregiving with him when necessary.

If your dad mentions anything to you in private about wanting Bob out, then you can do as your father wishes. But doing this to him now at this point, it will likely cause him much unneeded stress and quite frankly, might bring on anguish and heartache in the last few weeks/months of your father's life. Why bring him extra stress and cause him anguish? Just be there to help your father and nothing else. If you have to rent a hotel room for your privacy, then you might need to do this and go back and forth to your father's to be there with him.

If/when your father passes, then YOU can get rid of Bob asap via appropriate legal action if your father's estate passes to you. Until then, just focus on helping your father. Maybe in a few weeks he will bring up the situation to you and then you follow his wishes. But don't start strong arming your father at this point - he is too sick and he might not be around much longer. Let him have peace for now..don't add any extra stress.

If you strong arm your father, he might push you away. Support him and allow him to open up to you if there are any pressing issues he has about Bob. Maybe he is happy as can be about the situation. Maybe he is wanting to deed his property to Bob. Just be careful that your greed isn't speaking because maybe you want to be the sole heir and are worried that Bob might get what you deems as yours?

[old_cold]

Odds are this is another brand new hit and run poster we won't hear from again?