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I have followed this from the beginning and read it all. It's interesting to me because I keep thinking I'd like to get married. But 95% of the ladies here say they're not interested. Kind of discouraging, thank goodness I am happy
Not overweight, just turned 73, reasonably active, have some investments. I know I'm not charismatic. Since I have been single for years yes I do housework and know how.
A little of the fox who couldn't reach the grapes. I've got news for all the ladies who find men irrelevant, 95% of the ladies over 65 just aren't good enough looking to be of any interest to me. Only a little overweight is instant no interest to me.
I don't see why you don't want someone your own age. I have a friend (she's taken) who is 74 and a cute petite blonde with a great personality. I know several other available older women and maybe one is overweight (she's taken too).
I wouldn't want an overweight man so I can understand what you're saying about that. There are certain other deal breakers like smoking or being a drunk or not doing their share around the house.
My hubby does things around the house and he cooks too. He actually takes pride in scouring the pots and pans so that they gleam.
I think I was 64 when we got married, can't remember! But I sure didn't consider men irrelevant. I did have my standards though.
According to what I've read, more widowers are seeking relationships and open to the idea of a new partner than widows. From my own experience, and I know a number of single ladies (widowed, divorced), most of them have evolved an independent lifestyle. They have no desire to ever marry again nor need a serious relationship. Friends, hobbies, family, job, etc. fills some of the need for human interaction. However, there is still a big void remaining especially if they lost a spouse. I can't speak for all the older ladies, but from a widow's standpoint - whereas not actively seeking - male companionship would be nice, if only to have someone to share an outing with now and again
According to what I've read, more widowers are seeking relationships and open to the idea of a new partner than widows.
I've read that widowers who had a happy marriage don't adjust to being single as well as widows. Maybe because women seem to have a larger support system then men? (generalizing)
This has been a long thread - just look at my post number! What is interesting to me is the number of women who are unable to hide the fact that their dislike and resentment of men is indeed general. They make no disclaimer that the ex-husband whose faults they enumerate with such deep bitterness is only one man and therefore not representative of men in general.
I better hasten to add my disclaimer: I am not referring to all women who have posted in this thread, nor have I made a count or a tally; the haters may actually be a minority, but they are not just a small handful.
This expression of extreme prejudice against men has surfaced in different threads over the years in the Retirement Forum. Its strength is as amazing as it is profoundly discouraging. Again a disclaimer: Yes, once in a while a female-basher will also surface and I find that equally reprehensible. But the difference is that the female bashing is not considered acceptable and it gets taken down quickly, whereas the male bashing is accepted as part of the general landscape. It's just not politically correct to be even-handed about such matters.
I could cite several other threads in support of my thesis, but I would prefer to let sleeping dogs lie. Blessed be the rational and objective women posters who always oppose the haters no matter who they are, male or female, old or young, etc.
I could cite several other threads in support of my thesis, but I would prefer to let sleeping dogs lie. Blessed be the rational and objective women posters who always oppose the haters no matter who they are, male or female, old or young, etc.
Thanks, but I don't believe in God. No need to bless me.
I've read that widowers who had a happy marriage don't adjust to being single as well as widows. Maybe because women seem to have a larger support system then men? (generalizing)
That's a big reason, which I believe was discussed somewhere in this tome of a thread, and is also discussed on the Relationships forum fairly often. Hetero men who are now in their 40s and older often get most of their emotional support from a partner or spouse. Gen-X women and older do tend to have broader social networks than men the same age, and we draw support and social interaction from more avenues, usually.
I think that will change with Millennials, though. Young men seem to be developing the social support and networks men of prior generations didn't. That's a good thing, for them as people, and for society in general. The lower the number of people who feel compelled to marry to avoid loneliness, the lower the divorce rate will be, is my guess.
Odd, but I never met a man who didn't get a kick out of vacuuming, even my ex-hub. I've seen a couple dance while they were at it in my day. Hilarious!)
This caught my eye, and it's true...... I'm a boomer born in 1953. I grew up watching my dad hoover the house every Sunday morning. It was the only household task he carried out.
I also, among my other chores, do the hoovering. But, I still don't dust. Total waste of time. My wife tickles the furniture with her long dusting stick. She says static in the thing makes dust cling to it. As long as it makes her happy, I'm happy.
I prefer to get vacuuming as a chore for a couple of reasons. One is that I actually empty the things before it jams; I think that helps extend the life a bit. But the main one is that I move things that can be moved, use an attachment to go under things and do upholstered furniture, use a good pattern to ensure complete coverage and go back over places if it didn't seem to get everything the first time. What that means is this is a job I can do in a manner that will meet or exceed anyone's standards. That is not true with a lot of chores. I don't think I do a bad job on other things, but that is just one man's opinion...
I prefer to get vacuuming as a chore for a couple of reasons. One is that I actually empty the things before it jams; I think that helps extend the life a bit. But the main one is that I move things that can be moved, use an attachment to go under things and do upholstered furniture, use a good pattern to ensure complete coverage and go back over places if it didn't seem to get everything the first time. What that means is this is a job I can do in a manner that will meet or exceed anyone's standards. That is not true with a lot of chores. I don't think I do a bad job on other things, but that is just one man's opinion...
Yeah, women don't get how important a good vacuuming job is. It needs to be done well. None of that easy hoovering round stuff, it needs moving........
I don't mind doing that job, washing the dishes, running the washer, defrosting the freezers, and biggest of all, the work in the garden for half the year. I don't cook, iron, or dust. I have even been roped into going with my wife and her mother on the weekly food shopping trip. Her mother is 90 years old, and has had a few falls. My job is to walk behind her, ready to catch her if necessary........
My wife isn't strong enough to hold her mother up, as she has found out recently. This makes me relevant.
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I'm a boomer born in 1953. I grew up watching my dad hoover the house every Sunday morning. It was the only household task he carried out.
