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He took a job as a clerk where I shop and we got into a conversation...telephone number given.
Very intelligent, high command in the army due to his ability to use stealth in fire arms, wife died, couldn't have children so they artificially had three, 25 year marriage.
Wears a very small diamond stud in one ear. It actually works fashionista
like I said, he is a pistol
and yes I am interested
Can talk about anything. May not agree but he is not a two dimensional human.
Be a mature adult. Discuss this with him and see if he already has a plan for his healthcare and possible caretaking needs. If his answers aren't satisfactory to you, move on. Don't walk into a bad situation.
Bingo this is the right answer. Talk to him. Tell him of your concerns and discuss what is to be done. If he is attractive to you and he treats you right then you should not have that as a worry. Enjoy the company of a loving relationship.
For now, just have fun and wait and see how things go.
If the day comes when all this needs to be discussed, do it! One of the great things about being old is being able to discuss a tough topic without falling apart!
For now, just have fun and wait and see how things go.
If the day comes when all this needs to be discussed, do it! One of the great things about being old is being able to discuss a tough topic without falling apart!
How amazingly right.
Yes, we do not fall apart anymore...where would we fall apart to? We are the ones that the young cling too so they don't fall apart.
Does he have grown children? Do you? This is one good reason for not getting involved in a marriage. It is also a good out for you if either of you needs end of life care. The proper person to do this is the family. I had a cousin whose husband died; years later she met a widower and they embarked on a great relationship, each kept their own house but meals were always shared, also TV watching at night - but then each went home to his own house (I think!) They took trips together and met each other's kids. When he got ill and needed care, she called his daughter and told her that her dad needed her, and that she needed to come and make some arrangements. There never was any feeling that one of them was obligated to take care of the other one - it was the kids' responsibility.
Be a mature adult. Discuss this with him and see if he already has a plan for his healthcare and possible caretaking needs. If his answers aren't satisfactory to you, move on. Don't walk into a bad situation.
This! I'm only 37 but have been a caretaker to several individuals already. The last one was particularly demanding and exhausting so I understand why a person would not want to do it. No one knows when a person will need care but the older you are the more likely it is to happen. It makes perfect sense then for the two of you to discuss caretaker responsibilities so you both know where your responsibility to each other begins and ends.
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Do not get married or move in together and do not be any part of his will, executor, etc. let him designate his family to do all of that.
That gives you both freedom from the other's financial obligations/issues, legal obligations/issues, etc.
Enjoy the time you have together.
This too! It's no one's business where you sleep or with whom. In all other respects, maintain your own lives. You don't need or want to deal with children worrying about a new love interest taking their inheritance, particularly if they are going to be the caretaker one day.
Everyday is a gift. You don't need to get married or move in together. I have friends who became seriously ill at 60 and others who are in their 80's. Enjoy the companionship and yet keep your independence.
I think it depends on what you two want from a relationship. You are clear that you have no desire to marry. So, I don't know why you would feel you might become a caregiver. If you guys really like each other, I think you should let the relationship happen or not happen, as it would if you were not your actual ages.
If the relationship starts to become serious, then you two need to communicate your feelings then.
There is not a relationship on this earth that cannot be suddenly separated by death. If you have feelings for someone, you always stand the chance of being separated, even if the chance is slight. The alternative, not to allow yourself to develop feelings for someone, is to remain alone. Is that what you want? You will have to make the choice.
He is most likely looking for a "caretaker." That is what most 70-ish year old, unattached men look for. Most men that age are past the "romance" stuff (about 80% at age 70). Your age is promising because 8 - 9 years younger, he assumes you'd probably outlive him - and be able to handle his end of life issues. At his age, there's a greater than 50:50 chance he's doesn't want to be pestered for sex.
The real issue here is what you have planned for him. If you're looking for a sex life, I'd shoot for younger stuff....< 60. If you just want companionship (Platonic, mostly) then check him out. That will take some time. You indicate you don't need his money. That should make things simpler. Just hangout with him for a while longer and see what happens. You obviously haven't made your mind up yet. Hope my comment helps.
Good grief!!
Why do you think those little blue pills were invented? Because men didn't want to be pestered for sex?? You are kidding, right??
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