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Old 03-07-2018, 12:47 AM
 
Location: San Francisco Bay Area
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I was thinking OP was male....we don't know....
I got the impression that the OP was either male or younger (or both). Like you said, we don't know.
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Old 03-07-2018, 03:13 AM
 
Location: Kennett Square, PA
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Why are some senior women preoccupied with what other women do? I will always wear my rings whether he's living or gone AND I've been wearing my mother's wedding band as well since she passed in 2003.
Not married but wear my Mom's ring also. As far as the original querry: Why not leave the ring on? Is there some type of social mandate that dictates otherwise? Personally find this a rather strange question...
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Old 03-07-2018, 03:26 AM
 
Location: Florida
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Sometimes you just like the ring(s) and the way they look.
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Old 03-07-2018, 04:24 AM
 
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Why would they need to take them off? That ring is a symbol and bond of their love and just because a partner has passed doesn’t mean that bond is gone.
Absolutely. What a heartless question. Marriage is not about sex.
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Old 03-07-2018, 04:43 AM
 
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It's not just women that choose to do that.
This is true. Also, the ring has become a part of me, of us, what we had. No reason to remove it, and I am not fond of jewelry for myself. But the wedding ring is different.
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Old 03-07-2018, 06:53 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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I've been divorced 35+ years. And removed my rings as soon as I realized he wanted out.

But for those of you who lost a spouse through death and lost a great love, I would never presume to tell you to take the rings off. That is a very (IMHO) personal decision. Why do people think they have to criticize?
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Old 03-07-2018, 08:07 AM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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It' a symbol of the love they had for that person and it's an attachment. If they have no desire to get remarried why not leave them on? Who cares!
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Old 03-07-2018, 08:09 AM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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I lost my husband at 40 and didn't take off my rings for 2 years, AND wore his on a chain around my neck.

It was because in my heart I still felt married to him.
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Old 03-07-2018, 08:10 AM
 
Location: Raleigh
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I think its odd that people even discuss it (about widows/widowers.)

I'm young, and recently married, and if something happened to my wife, I would probably wear it unless I went out on a date or something. At least for a while. And I'm not super sentimental about "the one and only soulmate on the face of the earth."

And I'm not exactly super sensitive or anything like that.

In my mind, the wedding ring means that you are or were with someone "til death do us part."
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Old 03-07-2018, 08:55 AM
 
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If the OP has to ask....then he/she really wouldn`t understand. My rings will always be part of me. I buried my mother with her wedding ring on
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