friendly...but have you made friends? (San Antonio, Howe: transplants, home, high school) - Texas (TX) - City-Data Forum

davebrown · 12-13-2008, 11:44 AM

How successful have transplants here been making friends (close, casual, whatever)? Visited south Texas a few times for work and want to know if friendly attitude goes beyond saying hi on the street. Grew up in Chicago where folks can be real polite, but don't socialize with anyone they didn't go to high school with. Not ripping on the Midwest, just want something different.

...and before you say it, I know it's what I make of it and I need to get out and involved in activities.

lovinSA · 12-13-2008, 01:57 PM

Very easy, we did have friends here when we arrived and one recently moved back, since then we have been blessed with new and wonderful friends also. And, have CD to thank for a few of them

Chaka · 12-13-2008, 03:04 PM

It's what you make of it

Like anywhere, it'll depend on the environment you're in where you do meet people. I didn't know a soul when I moved here, and over time, made a large circle of casual friends and from there, multiple close friendships including a marriage

(to someone also not from here).

I think at first it can seem really hard because this is a place without a lot of transplants, or rather, many people don't leave and don't have a sense of what it's like to be from somewhere else. They already have their social circle. However, I was coming from environments where virtually everyone was from somewhere else (expats) to an environment where almost no-one was from somewhere else. So it took some adapting. That said, the city as a whole has definitely increased its number of transplants, so you won't be alone.

sapphire · 12-13-2008, 03:07 PM

Since this is a military city, we have lots of people moving in and out. There should not be any problems making friends, unless you're a turd.

And I can't seem to go anywhere in this town without running into someone I know--at least casually. Even clear across town. Granted, I've been here almost 24 years, but still--nearly every time I go out I run into someone I've known either through work, my kids, or play. It's nice.

firstclassflyer · 12-13-2008, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by sapphire

Since this is a military city, we have lots of people moving in and out. There should not be any problems making friends, unless you're a turd.

And I can't seem to go anywhere in this town without running into someone I know--at least casually. Even clear across town. Granted, I've been here almost 24 years, but still--nearly every time I go out I run into someone I've known either through work, my kids, or play. It's nice.

Ha...and there are indeed quite a few "turds" floating around here.

Pun intended.

TX_AGGIE13 · 12-13-2008, 03:32 PM

I've been back and forth to San Antonio since 97' in college, and finnaly here for good after 4 years total in and out. I'd have to say it is very easy to meet people. I have been fortunate enough to build a very nice group of close friends, and many aquaintances. I am very much less active in the community social scene than in past years, but still manage to meet people through church, work, social sports events etc... Good luck, and im sure you will find this community as friendly as I have.

luckygreeniii · 12-13-2008, 03:55 PM

I am pretty much a homebody and pretty quiet (until I get to know ya) and I have already made several good friends here. Lots of people I have met have been very welcoming! It does help to get out amongst the masses!

svg210 · 12-13-2008, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by sapphire

Since this is a military city, we have lots of people moving in and out. There should not be any problems making friends, unless you're a turd.

And I can't seem to go anywhere in this town without running into someone I know--at least casually. Even clear across town. Granted, I've been here almost 24 years, but still--nearly every time I go out I run into someone I've known either through work, my kids, or play. It's nice.

You called me a turd!!!

I have lots of problems making friends my age, they always want to come over and want me to cook for them, they never bring beer or other miscelaneous items. Dam cheapskates and I'll be honest I'm no fool

so I end up kicking them out.

I usually hang out with a few married couples(dont think wrong) and my neighboor to the left because the old man on the right doesnt like me lol

svg210 · 12-13-2008, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by luckygreeniii

I am pretty much a homebody and pretty quiet (until I get to know ya) and I have already made several good friends here. Lots of people I have met have been very welcoming! It does help to get out amongst the masses!

thats me too. at first glance you might think im madd, but I am somewhat shy but once I get to know people watch out because I love to fool around. Im the life of the party lol

KY Filly · 12-13-2008, 05:53 PM

I think that's one of the hardest aspects of relocating. We had tons of great friends (and a handful of REALLY close friends) in KY. We moved here in March of this year and still don't have what we would call "close" friends, but we've met several people (a lot through CD) that we've socialized with a little bit. Have met a few neighbors and some people at my work (DH works in an office of "one"...himself LOL). It's certainly not that people aren't open to being friends, it just takes some time and certainly effort to get out and meet people. I wouldn't expect to have what I call close friends in a matter of a few months - it takes some time to make those relationships.

For those people who have children at home it might be a little "easier" cause you have school and kid activities that helps to meet people. We're empty nesters, so don't have that outlet to meet people.