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Old 02-16-2010, 02:21 PM
 
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Tux costs 170 dollars, yeah wtf?
Bachelor party 400 dollars for my share
Rent hotel room 200 dollars with guest
Taxes owed at end of the year 1200 ish

Wedding gift? Yeah I need help
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Old 02-16-2010, 02:26 PM
 
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Maybe you can get some savings bonds and give them to your friends. Don't these mature as you get older?

One of my cousins gave us bonds for a wedding present.

If you are paying $$ to be in the wedding or just attend, your friends should understand that you cannot give a huge present.
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Old 02-16-2010, 02:37 PM
 
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If you are paying $$ to be in the wedding or just attend, your friends should understand that you cannot give a huge present.
I thought the same but now thinking back on it if they thinkg a 170$ tux is normal where I come from then they are out of their mind
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Old 02-17-2010, 07:09 AM
 
Location: Florida
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Consider a hand blown art glass vase.
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Old 02-17-2010, 10:02 AM
 
Location: Kansas
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you should show up in rags to prove a point.

My standard wedding gift is either $50 cash or an equivalent value gift card from Lowe's or Home Depot (if they are home owners...or going to be).

Having gone through the wedding deal myself I can honestly say that we didn't 'expect' our guests to come baring gifts (and some didn't). We were just thankful for what we got. And from our perspective....we paid for a big chunk of the wedding out of our pockets....so the cash and gift cards from home improvement stores was extremely helpful to us when we were trying to make a start in a new house.
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Old 02-17-2010, 10:03 AM
 
Location: southern california
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go to sakowitz and buy an expensive broken vase, ship it to them.
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Old 02-17-2010, 01:30 PM
 
Location: Kauai, HI
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My mom used to go to a waterford or wedgewood outlet where you could get their items for much cheaper than retail, and no one knew. My aunt goes on ebay and does the same thing.
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Old 02-17-2010, 07:01 PM
 
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Love Gypsy's idea about the savings bonds. I give these for graduation presents and other milestones. An EE bond is purchased for half the face value, so a $50 bond will cost you $25. There are also I bonds that are purchased for the face value. Granted, interest rates are low, but the money will be there. I think the website is either savingsbonds.com or savingsbonds.gov. There should also be some information on the Treasury Department website. You can buy them at banks.

I also like the Waterford, Wedgewood, Lenox, etc outlets. Look at department stores -- most are having good sales right now. You can often pick up coupons from your local paper or online for the individual stores.

Do people still register in your area? If so, you'll be surprised at some of the little things on the register that people don't buy. These are always appreciated!
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Old 02-18-2010, 01:11 AM
 
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I like Mar-O's suggestion of the outlets, but seeing that you are a guy, I don't think you would enjoy the excursion.

I'm unemployed, watching my expenses and BOOM I get invited to a very upmarket event which I could not avoid. What I did was to go onto Amazon and get one of those digital picture frames for $69. Once I received it, I went through a ton of old pictures finding photos of the honoree and also photos of mutual friends from days gone by. I laid them out on my coffee table, used my digital camera to "retake" the picture, downloaded them on to my PC and then transferred them on to the new digital picture frame. It was the hit of the party and meant so much more to them than a lot of the other more expensive presents they received that evening (or at least they pretended to!!!). Just a suggestion. Good luck!
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Old 02-18-2010, 01:21 AM
 
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Tux costs 170 dollars, yeah wtf?
Bachelor party 400 dollars for my share
Rent hotel room 200 dollars with guest
Taxes owed at end of the year 1200 ish

Wedding gift? Yeah I need help
I'm assuming you're in the bridal party?

Why not get ALL the bridal party together and put in for something big together?

We do that here a lot. If you all chip in $50 to $100 and there's 6 of you that's $300 to $600 bucks right there.

The other thing is, is the wedding registered somewhere? Check that list out if you can, if it exists. If it's been done properly there should be a lot of gifts in the lower range for guests to purchase.

OH and if you're in the bridal party and you're outlaying all this cost I'm not sure that it's even expected that you buy a gift. It certainly wouldn't be expected at my place. I would consider your outlay so far AND your effort in helping us on our special day MORE THAN ENOUGH.
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