How do Indian/Arab women feel about black men in Canada??

[imaya]

Hi,
I think you got it exactly right.
Speaking from my personal experience, I really think interracial dating comes with a lot of baggage and it takes too much energy to maintain and sometimes takes a toll on everyone involved, especially the children.
Mostly its the cultural gap that persists between the different ethnic groups black, white, brown etc. It is really much more that just the skin color
When I see an interracial couple walking in the street I can only imagine how much added burden they have to reckon with either whether its from society, which has not quite come to term with it, or family members and friends who view this type of relationship as taboo.
In the two years I dated Tariq, we probably went out a dozen times, and I can't remember one single time that we didn't either argue or simply see things differently. Although he was very sweet, well mannered and very social in nature, these nice attributes alone do not make for a good or lasting relationship, let along a marriage.
Its interesting you brought up your uncle how he was very protective. In the inner city high school I went to, the majority of students were blacks, then Latino and there were many Arab Muslim and Christians as well. I remember one Arab student his name was Fadi(Christian), he was the sweetest thing you will ever meet and tough too. He was the big brother to all the Arabic girls both Muslim and Christians, and was extremely protective of all of us girls.

[klmrocks]

Originally Posted by imaya

Hi,
I think you got it exactly right.
Speaking from my personal experience, I really think interracial dating comes with a lot of baggage and it takes too much energy to maintain and sometimes takes a toll on everyone involved, especially the children.
Mostly its the cultural gap that persists between the different ethnic groups black, white, brown etc. It is really much more that just the skin color
When I see an interracial couple walking in the street I can only imagine how much added burden they have to reckon with either whether its from society, which has not quite come to term with it, or family members and friends who view this type of relationship as taboo.
In the two years I dated Tariq, we probably went out a dozen times, and I can't remember one single time that we didn't either argue or simply see things differently. Although he was very sweet, well mannered and very social in nature, these nice attributes alone do not make for a good or lasting relationship, let along a marriage.
Its interesting you brought up your uncle how he was very protective. In the inner city high school I went to, the majority of students were blacks, then Latino and there were many Arab Muslim and Christians as well. I remember one Arab student his name was Fadi(Christian), he was the sweetest thing you will ever meet and tough too. He was the big brother to all the Arabic girls both Muslim and Christians, and was extremely protective of all of us girls.

Regarding the difficulty with inter-racial relationships. I actually think if depends. For example for me physical appearance ex skin colour would not make that much of a difference, but religious and cultural does make a huge difference and adds lots of stress. Despite being raised catholic and going to catholic school I have never been in a serious relationship with anyone who was Catholic or even Christian and I married someone that practices a different religion so I am the prime example of how stressful these situations could be. All religious holidays are crazy stressful because they cause huge conflict in my house ( so can't wait until January). December is like my least favourite month of the year now.

As a person raised Catholic who is actually not religious at all and a feminist for some crazy twist of fate always end up with men from very patriarchal cultures who tend to actually practice/ believe in their religions. Orthodox Jews, Jehovah Witnesses and Muslims ( to date I can't not even count the amount of times I have had to explain that, " no... we don't pray to the chubby old man giving children presents" , " no we are not praying to that tree", "yes the holy trinity think makes no sense ... but we believe it anyways" and "no we don't actually think it is okay to eat people because of the whole body of Christ/ host thing and blood/wine reference at church" . So if anyone ever wonders what other religious groups think of Christians, .. rest assured they totally think we are nuts too !).