You should be fine on that income. Tacoma is going to be fairly affordable. Surrounding areas (University Place, Fircrest, Gig Harbor) are nicer in my opinion (and UP and Gig Harbor schools I feel are better), but they can be a bit pricier. Even in Gig Harbor, you can get a nice 4bd/2.5ba home for around $300k-$350k. It may be '80s but still nice in a nice neighborhood. Tacoma homes will tend to be older and a bit less expensive, but the taxes are higher in Tacoma.
You can see the Tacoma School Districts pay scale and benefits
on this site. I have several clients who live with their families in Tacoma and Gig Harbor with about $50k income.