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it's even more ridiculous if you are in the wedding party...
i'm in two this year, one in August and one in October. i'm already up to 600$ spent and there is still so much more to go. was just told hair and make up will be $250 for one of them.... $250!!!!
i feel like the bride/groom should pay for the bridal party's expenses and it should be considered part of the cost of having a wedding. it's frustrating b/c i will never ask for this in return b/c i don't want to ask friends/family to spend money on me jst because i decided to spend the rest of my life with someone.
it's even more ridiculous if you are in the wedding party...
i'm in two this year, one in August and one in October. i'm already up to 600$ spent and there is still so much more to go. was just told hair and make up will be $250 for one of them.... $250!!!!
i feel like the bride/groom should pay for the bridal party's expenses and it should be considered part of the cost of having a wedding. it's frustrating b/c i will never ask for this in return b/c i don't want to ask friends/family to spend money on me jst because i decided to spend the rest of my life with someone.
That's horrible. When did women become unable to do their own hair and makeup? And nails for that matter?The bride should not dictate those things. When I got married (first time, back in the 80s), I paid for my bridesmaids' dresses and shoes. And they got beautiful all by themselves.
For my second wedding, 5 years ago, we just got married in our home with a JP. Didn't even invite anyone, not even his or my grown children (they were all 1000-3000 miles away and it just seemed like a needless expense).
I detest the monster that the wedding industry has become, and the expectations many brides feel they must live up to.
For my second wedding, 5 years ago, we just got married in our home with a JP. Didn't even invite anyone, not even his or my grown children (they were all 1000-3000 miles away and it just seemed like a needless expense).
What will you do for you third wedding? Not get married ?
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Originally Posted by kayanne
I detest the monster that the wedding industry has become, and the expectations many brides feel they must live up to.
The only reason the US wedding industry became the monster that is because people use its ridiculously overpriced services. And from what I have observed and heard, women have the highest expectations and desires for the weddings. Most guys seem to not care too much... I think I detest US culture as it pertains to weddings...
And from what I have observed and heard, women have the highest expectations and desires for the weddings. Most guys seem to not care too much... I think I detest US culture as it pertains to weddings...
I agree completely. Every time someone in my social circle gets engaged, my hope is that they don't invite me to the wedding. If they invite me, I RSVP no more often than I RSVP yes. Surprisingly, my non-attendance at most people's weddings has not impacted the quality of my friendships. I RSVP no more often than I RSVP yes because attending most weddings offers more drawbacks than benefits from my point of view.
No. A gift is a gift. How many people attend is a non-issue.
Ehh arent you supposed to cover your plate? Im not saying you have to but inst that the standard/whats expected? So if you bring someone thats an extra plate to be covered. Im not saying i agree with this lol i think weddings are ridiculous in general, but i think the brideand groom expect people to at least cover their plates.
Ehh aerent you supposed to cover your plate? Im not saying you have to but inst that the standard/whats expected? So if you bring someone thats an extra plate to be covered. Im not saying i agree with this lol i think weddings are ridiculous in general, but i think the brideand groom expect people to at least cover their plates.
No. A wedding invitation is extended to include people you care about to be a part of an important moment in your life. A reception is a celebration of that event and it is the responsibility of the hosts to foot the bill for whatever kind of event they want and can afford. The guests responsibility is to RSVP promptly, bring only those invited (no children unless they are invited, no plus-one's unless mentioned on the invitation), have a good time but not an obnoxious one, and a gift within your own budget and commensurate with your relationship with the bridal couple. For example, my nieces and nephews all recieved the same amount as a gift, regardless of our family size (kids were invited) and regardless of how fancy or extravagant the wedding was. Frankly what is rude is trying to figure out what your hosts have spent.
No. A wedding invitation is extended to include people you care about to be a part of an important moment in your life. A reception is a celebration of that event and it is the responsibility of the hosts to foot the bill for whatever kind of event they want and can afford. The guests responsibility is to RSVP promptly, bring only those invited (no children unless they are invited, no plus-one's unless mentioned on the invitation), have a good time but not an obnoxious one, and a gift within your own budget and commensurate with your relationship with the bridal couple. For example, my nieces and nephews all recieved the same amount as a gift, regardless of our family size (kids were invited) and regardless of how fancy or extravagant the wedding was. Frankly what is rude is trying to figure out what your hosts have spent.
If that were the case people wouldnt have bridal parties, outlandish bachelor and bachelorette parties and other gluttonous things that the wedding includes
If that were the case people wouldnt have bridal parties, outlandish bachelor and bachelorette parties and other gluttonous things that the wedding includes
1. Not everyone has these things;
2. Some people who do have these things...might simply enjoy them;
3. Of course there are greedy and entitled people. Sometimes they get married. Nothing new there. If these are the kind of friends you have, get better friends.
None of those indicate a necessity to "cover your plate".
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