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Again, get better friends. I've never ever heard any of my friends or family complain about the amount of a cash wedding gift.
I've read posts here and other places online where brides complained that the cash gifts didn't cover the sit-down meal. Trashy? Yes of course. But it certainly happens.
Ehh arent you supposed to cover your plate? Im not saying you have to but inst that the standard/whats expected? So if you bring someone thats an extra plate to be covered. Im not saying i agree with this lol i think weddings are ridiculous in general, but i think the brideand groom expect people to at least cover their plates.
Nope.
It is not your responsibility to pay for the reception.
The bride and groom should have a reception they can afford... it is not about "covering a plate" at all.
Im just saying that if i only give 50$ as a wedding gift bc thats my budget, the bride and groom will most likely have something to say about it... Behind my back of course.
I've read posts here and other places online where brides complained that the cash gifts didn't cover the sit-down meal. Trashy? Yes of course. But it certainly happens.
I don't doubt it happens. I remember a thread here where a poster complained that she was invited to a "cake and punch" reception. She thought it was cheap and tacky, particularly since she routinely gave $200 (or something). Entitlement apparently goes both ways. It certainly doesn't make it polite behavior though.
If we all gave up every friend because of their character flaws....well, we'd all be friendless.
So, you have friends who complain about the gifts you give them and talk behind your back? (as was the case I quoted & commented upon)
I sure wouldn't be friends with people like that!
Ehh arent you supposed to cover your plate? Im not saying you have to but inst that the standard/whats expected? So if you bring someone thats an extra plate to be covered. Im not saying i agree with this lol i think weddings are ridiculous in general, but i think the brideand groom expect people to at least cover their plates.
I just got married last year and "covering our plates" never entered into the discussion. We had a strict budget for our wedding and did the best we could with what we were willing to spend. It wasn't fancy but it was pretty, and it was very "us." We did not register for gifts (we have enough stuff) but gratefully accepted the gifts some of our guests chose to give us. Some were more generous than others, but none were expected. We wrote thank-you notes promptly after the honeymoon. We never "totaled up" what we got vs what we spent. We didn't care.
Well I think that if guests can afford it, they should roughly cover per person cost of the event and then leave a bit more for the actual gift. But then I only went to the weddings of the friends or family members who I've know for years and cared about. I would feel different if this was someone I know casually.
But I agree that it is absolutely tacky for the hosts to discuss the gifts they received and complain if someone did not pay enough...
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