Husband taking wife's name? (marriage, fiance, daughter, parents)

[leadingedge04]

Hello,
Not sure if this is the correct place for this, if not, please move this thread. I had a talk with my fiancee the other day, and she decided that she would like to keep her maiden name. Her reasoning are justified, ntbut I would like to both have the same last name.

With that said, I thought about taking her last name. I know its not common for the husband to take the wife's last name, but I think it is better than my last name. Its easier to say (everyone gets my last name wrong), and I like the flow of how my first name and her last name sounds. In fact, saying my middle name and her last name rhymes!

The abbreviation idea has been ruled out because it would be a real mish-mash of syllable and very lengthy.

Thoughts? Can any husbands that did this chime in?

Thank you.

[zentropa]

I know a millennial couple that just did this. It seemed odd to me. But the whole marriage seemed odd. They had ony known each other for a short time and next thing anyone knew they were eloping in Canada. They wore strange costumes in their wedding too, from what I could make of the photos.

[germaine2626]

I knew one couple that did this because the woman was the last of her line so her family name continued into future generations. Her dad & grandpa were extremely happy that she & her husband did this. Her husband had two brothers so his "name" continued through his nieces and nephews.

I kept my birth name when I married 39 years ago and I never regretted it. BTW, we never had any problems at all having two different last names.

My son & his fiancée were considering making a new last name that combined both of their last names but they decided to just keep their own names & add each other's last name as a middle name.

[photobuff42]

I changed my name the first time and then went through the pain of changing it back. Second time around, I kept my name. If someone calls me "Mrs. Husband's Name" I just roll with it.

[Curmudgeon]

My idiot brother - much younger than I am so we didn't grow up together - changed his first name shortly after our mother died then married and took his wife's last name shortly after our father died a bit over a year later. He hated our parents and wanted nothing to do with either of his birth names or family. I consider him a wuss and haven't seen or spoken with him in about 25 years.

[HonestOne1]

I'm kind of an unselfish person and would be willing to change my name to Michael Megan Fox

[reneeh63]

I stupidly hyphenated two difficult to spell names. I'd never change my name again in any way. If it is a pain for a woman (and serves no purpose) then it is equally silly for a man. If she doesn't need a name change to feel married, why would you?

Oh...it doesn't make you a wuss...it just doesn't really add any value so what's the point.

[BostonMike7]

I personally don't know of any guy that has ever taken his wife's name. I know a few women that did keep their maiden name. That seems to be gathering steam in my area.


When I got married, I told my wife she could keep her name if she wanted. It wouldn't bother me. But, she chose to take mine.

[CapsChick]

OP, what are your reasons for wanting to have the same last name?

[gentlearts]

I think whatever you agree to is fine. I don't know how bad your last name is, but I've seen some names the I wouldn't keep, for sure, since they're so hard to spell and pronounce.

In some Scandinavian countries the females keep their last names, and their daughters have the same last name as the mother. The son's have the fathers last name. In my DILs Spanish culture, her mother and father have different last names, and so do her grandparents. Her name was Maria E (fathers last name) (mothers last name).

My only issue is because of future genealogy. I might be very hard to follow a family's lineage if everyone changed their names willy nilly.