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Elope doesn't mean you bring a wedding party & relatives!
Do you mean a destination wedding instead?
I agree, but I also think destination weddings are what elopements have become. Until more recently (back in the 90s), you eloped because you didn't want a big wedding, the expense, or in the case of a couple of wedding I went to back then, divorced parents didn't get along so it was easier to go away and avoid the drama.
Now everyone wants the beach wedding because it's cheap for the bride and groom, yet offloads the expense onto the guests. My coworker was invited to three one year, and that would have cost her all her vacation for the year, plus close to $6k. I know I'm opinionated on this, but if it's so important to you to have all of your friends and family there, you might want to consider what's convenient for them time and money-wise, not just you.
For us it was worth it.
My husband and I and the couple who stood up with us took a weekend and went to
Gatlinburg, Tennessee.
We got married, they watched, we spent the next couple of days then went home.
We got around to telling everyone else we got married about 4.5 years later.
I know for a fact everyone will look down at me for eloping and for not including everyone, which is why I considered a destination wedding if I'm 'forced' to include family.
I agree, but I also think destination weddings are what elopements have become. Until more recently (back in the 90s), you eloped because you didn't want a big wedding, the expense, or in the case of a couple of wedding I went to back then, divorced parents didn't get along so it was easier to go away and avoid the drama.
Now everyone wants the beach wedding because it's cheap for the bride and groom, yet offloads the expense onto the guests. My coworker was invited to three one year, and that would have cost her all her vacation for the year, plus close to $6k. I know I'm opinionated on this, but if it's so important to you to have all of your friends and family there, you might want to consider what's convenient for them time and money-wise, not just you.
Someday I'll post the story of a friend who got married on a Caribbean beach on the Tuesday before Thanksgiving.
Someday I'll post the story of a friend who got married on a Caribbean beach on the Tuesday before Thanksgiving.
Lol, that sounds like someone who didn't want all of the invitees to come!
To the OP, I say do what you want. If you want a small wedding but feel obligated to invite a lot of people, maybe a destination wedding is the right way to go. Just make sure those closest to you will be able to make it!
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