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It's protocol, not inviting the boss indicates you don't think much of that person. Tell me, you are the boss, your subordinate is getting married and doesn't invite you - what does that say? Hey JordanJP, you may sign my paycheck, you may give me a raise/bonus, but I don't think much of you as a person. See how far you get at work. You can do stellar work and guess what, this comes into play and instead of a 10% raise, you get a 7% raise, while your cubicle mate gets 8%. And this is one of the things they don't teach you at school, but is taught at the school of "hard knocks".
I agree.
And 75 guests is that fair-to-middlin' number where it's not "small and intimate."
I invited my then-boss as well as the immediate staff where I worked, and I had only been there for three years at the time. They all had a good time, and he was the last one off the dance floor!
I wouldn't invite him just because he's your boss, but if you work closely with him and you're inviting other co-workers who you work closely with, by all means invite him.
I used to run a small company of about 70 employees. Some of them I "worked with" and others I seldom saw. I was usually invited to the weddings of the former type (and attended) but not the latter, and that's exactly what I'd have expected. Even if invited, I wouldn't have attended the weddings of those whom I saw rarely and would have considered the invitation as "Notice: I'm getting married. A gift or bonus would be appreciated."
As a side note, I remember when I got married the first time my boss gave me a 10-15% raise because "as a married person you'll need that." That was 45 years ago. I doubt it would fly these days -- discrimination.
Unless you don't get along with your boss (which apparently is not the case) then I would definitely invite him or her. I went to a coworker's wedding who'd invited his boss, his boss's boss, and many of his coworkers. We all had a great time and he also hadn't worked in that group for a very long period of time, he was just a young guy. I think it is also a good way to develop a friendship with a boss and I see nothing wrong with that at all.
hello :-)
i'm an IT professional, 29, and about to be married...
i wanted to know if it's appropriate to invite a couple of collegues....including the boss (ie. CEO of small company) to the reception/wedding.
i haven't been at the company for long (about a year) but get along well with them (although always professional as far as our relationship).
the wedding is local. about 75 people total. mostly family and friends of family but a pretty diverse group.
please let me know what you think.
You could invite them but most bosses politely decline the offer. The problem is when alcohol is involved at the reception and people have a few too many. Sometimes things get said with the help of some alcohol courage and maybe even a fight. It just seems unless the person is very close to their boss they usually will not go and avoid the possibility of a confrontation.
hello :-)
i'm an IT professional, 29, and about to be married...
i wanted to know if it's appropriate to invite a couple of collegues....including the boss (ie. CEO of small company) to the reception/wedding.
i haven't been at the company for long (about a year) but get along well with them (although always professional as far as our relationship).
the wedding is local. about 75 people total. mostly family and friends of family but a pretty diverse group.
please let me know what you think.
I think it's appropriate to invite your boss to the wedding.
hello :-)
i'm an IT professional, 29, and about to be married...
i wanted to know if it's appropriate to invite a couple of collegues....including the boss (ie. CEO of small company) to the reception/wedding.
i haven't been at the company for long (about a year) but get along well with them (although always professional as far as our relationship).
the wedding is local. about 75 people total. mostly family and friends of family but a pretty diverse group.
please let me know what you think.
Based on what you've said, I don't see anything wrong with inviting the boss. If he/she doesn't feel comfortable, they'll decline the invite.
You could invite them but most bosses politely decline the offer. The problem is when alcohol is involved at the reception and people have a few too many. Sometimes things get said with the help of some alcohol courage and maybe even a fight. It just seems unless the person is very close to their boss they usually will not go and avoid the possibility of a confrontation.
If you get along well with the boss, the likelihood of a confrontation is extremely slim
Plus, not everyone stays at a reception late enough to witness the drunkenness (or don't drink at all, to begin with).
If you get along well with the boss, the likelihood of a confrontation is extremely slim
Plus, not everyone stays at a reception late enough to witness the drunkenness (or don't drink at all, to begin with).
I even witnessed an employee kiss his boss's wife while dancing with her and fell down on the dance floor on their bums! Pepper spray was deployed that night!LOL........
hello :-)
i'm an IT professional, 29, and about to be married...
i wanted to know if it's appropriate to invite a couple of collegues....including the boss (ie. CEO of small company) to the reception/wedding.
i haven't been at the company for long (about a year) but get along well with them (although always professional as far as our relationship).
the wedding is local. about 75 people total. mostly family and friends of family but a pretty diverse group.
please let me know what you think.
Invite the boss. But don't show up yourself... NEVER get married. Did you even bother to google marriage..?
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You can do stellar work and guess what, this comes into play and instead of a 10% raise, you get a 7% raise, while your cubicle mate gets 8%. And this is one of the things they don't teach you at school, but is taught at the school of "hard knocks". 
That was 45 years ago. I doubt it would fly these days -- discrimination.
