Nasty responses when informing boss of a second job or quitting altogether? (employees, credit)

[mchelle]

So I decided to break the news to my current boss that I was hired at a credit union and would be starting there...tomorrow. I was planning to tell her on Saturday but she left before I got in, so I left a note. Came in today and she was less than thrilled.

My manager and the owner sat down with me and were dumbfounded that I had gotten a second job. They were like "well as long as you know you'll be getting less hours here, you're limiting yourself, trading in hours here for hours there, I don't know how you think you'll get ahead.."

Inside I'm laughing hysterically because this new job pays better, is in a better industry (hospitality can kiss my a$$ if other hotels are like this one ), and has way, way, WAY better opportunities for advancement. Also, I'm pretty sure they'll actually pay me for all of the hours that I work. If I didn't have bills to pay I would have quit here a loong time ago.

Does anyone have stories to share regarding breaking news like this to your boss? Or quitting in general? I'm sure there are better stories than this one and I'd love to hear them.

[SouthBound47]

I've never had two jobs, but I always have left well, even if on short notice. Tell them I appreciate their guidance, and the opportunity to work for them.

I had an acquaintance who told me he intentionally got into a fight with his manager, then told him off and quit - He had another job lined up. When I heard that, I just thought, "I'll probably be in a position to hire staff in the near future (less than 5 years), and your resume would go into the trash."

It's bad to burn bridges.

I personally wouldn't inform someone of a major chance via a note, in-person is usually better.

Good luck at the new job. Banking is alot of fun, I always enjoyed being a teller.

[kaw1972]

I've often worked 2 or even 3 jobs. I never formally told anyone, although I think I probably mentioned it in conversation to some people. Did you have to do so because your current position required weekend availability? I did this when I had 9-5 gigs--worked in a hostel after hours, and so on. Had there been an emergency at my day job, I would have found someone to cover my second job.

I understand the desire to burn bridges, but it just isn't worth it. And going forward, I'd keep any second jobs, small businesses you run on the side, etc. to yourself. As long as you're not working for a competitor, it shouldn't be an issue. It's really no one else's business, and many people will take it as "Oh, man. Now she's going to be tired/calling in/distracted. "

[mchelle]

Originally Posted by SouthBound47

I've never had two jobs, but I always have left well, even if on short notice. Tell them I appreciate their guidance, and the opportunity to work for them.

I had an acquaintance who told me he intentionally got into a fight with his manager, then told him off and quit - He had another job lined up. When I heard that, I just thought, "I'll probably be in a position to hire staff in the near future (less than 5 years), and your resume would go into the trash."

It's bad to burn bridges.

I personally wouldn't inform someone of a major chance via a note, in-person is usually better.

Good luck at the new job. Banking is alot of fun, I always enjoyed being a teller.

Yeah, probably not the best idea to intentionally get into a fight with your manager. But if the person is being mean to begin with, I'd imagine it would be fun to tell them off like that.

I was hoping to tell her in person but that would have required me to wait another two days...I was kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place. And although it sounds awful, I really don't even care that I didn't go about it the best way. This place has caused enough problems for me, I don't care if I inconvenience them. Of course I would never tell them that. I've gotten reeally well at acting like I love it here..maybe my next trip should be to Hollywood.

Thanks!! I'm really excited

[mchelle]

Originally Posted by kaw1972

I've often worked 2 or even 3 jobs. I never formally told anyone, although I think I probably mentioned it in conversation to some people. Did you have to do so because your current position required weekend availability? I did this when I had 9-5 gigs--worked in a hostel after hours, and so on. Had there been an emergency at my day job, I would have found someone to cover my second job.

I understand the desire to burn bridges, but it just isn't worth it. And going forward, I'd keep any second jobs, small businesses you run on the side, etc. to yourself. As long as you're not working for a competitor, it shouldn't be an issue. It's really no one else's business, and many people will take it as "Oh, man. Now she's going to be tired/calling in/distracted. "

That's great that your availability allowed you to keep it to yourself. That would have been awesome but doesn't really work in my situation. Shifts at the hotel are 3pm-11pm and the credit union is from 1pm-6pm, so I had to tell them why my availability was going to be changing. I'm an awful liar so I had no choice.

I'm sure they may see it that way, but it really doesn't bother me. The turnover rate is so high, I doubt they even care. I'll be quitting altogether soon anyway.

[JobZombie]

I wouldn't have left a note and instead would have told the manager face to face. Just like they do when they “have to” let you go. Many years ago I interviewed and got hired at another company and when I informed my present supervisor that I was giving my 2 week notice he got pissed and said that what they paid the agency would have bought a nice car as I was hired with them through an employment agency. Well first of all, the fee used to pay the agency was already allocated as part of my salary, the fee was just taken out of that amount and I got what was left over. Usually there's other additional money left over in the budget as well that gets divvied up amongst the managers. Secondly, the fees were paid by the corporation (a very large well known company) and this supervisor was getting all bent out of shape acting like it came out of his personal wallet.


The kicker is that at that company I had more education than my manager and her boss and as a result I had advancement opportunities there that were unavailable to them so they went out of their way to make my life as miserable as possible. Then this lover acts surprised that I found a better opportunity and decided to move on. Did he really think I would just hang around and let them perpetually stifle my career advancement there because I could move up and they couldn't? Had I been treated fairly I wouldn't have been motivated as such to look for another job at the time.

[malamute]

Sometimes you have to report a second job - make sure there's no conflict of interests, or it at least has to be disclosed.

The problem is poor management when there is this kind of reaction. As long as you can handle two jobs, it's not their concern.

[Bjones1976]

There was a time when I would have had an issue with you giving your current employer such a short notice. However, with the way employees are disposed off in this country (your lucky if you get notice) I'm hesitant to do so. Burning bridges is never good but be sure this is a bridge that you wouldn't mind crossing again.

Originally Posted by mchelle

So I decided to break the news to my current boss that I was hired at a credit union and would be starting there...tomorrow. I was planning to tell her on Saturday but she left before I got in, so I left a note. Came in today and she was less than thrilled.

What's disgusting to me is how employers will try to impose this "you're nothing without me" psycho babble. Like you can't possibly find something better than their job? If I had a dime everythime someone tried to make it their business to try and stop me from being able to take care of my family or have some sort of happiness working somewhere else, I wouldn't need to work for the rest of my life . It's also another reason I aggressively started my own business.

Originally Posted by mchelle

My manager and the owner sat down with me and were dumbfounded that I had gotten a second job. They were like "well as long as you know you'll be getting less hours here, you're limiting yourself, trading in hours here for hours there, I don't know how you think you'll get ahead.."

[mcb1025]

Originally Posted by Bjones1976

There was a time when I would have had an issue with you giving your current employer such a short notice. However, with the way employees are disposed off in this country (your lucky if you get notice) I'm hesitant to do so. Burning bridges is never good but be sure this is a bridge that you wouldn't mind crossing again.




What's disgusting to me is how employers will try to impose this "you're nothing without me" psycho babble. Like you can't possibly find something better than their job? If I had a dime everythime someone tried to make it their business to try and stop me from being able to take care of my family or have some sort of happiness working somewhere else, I wouldn't need to work for the rest of my life . It's also another reason I aggressively started my own business.

It seems that a lot of employers will push you to the limits until you finally break down and confront them. At that point, likely a day late and dollar short, they'll listen to your concerns and try to improve them so they don't have to go through the process of interviewing, re-hiring, retraining, etc. which all costs the business time and money. After it's all said and done, I believe these employers get what they deserve.

[JTGJR]

I once had a manager ask me what salary they could counter with that would keep me with the company. I told him 15% over my new company salary. He asked what that was and, when I told him, he then asked if I knew of any other positions available at the new company.