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After reading this forum over the last few months, I've seen many people (myself included) who have gotten jobs and told their story here. Most of the time you will get people who congratulate them and tell them how happy they are that they finally got a job. But, the one thing I've noticed is the people who constantly bash the unemployed never even acknowledge this.
You would think they would be the first to say something. After all, they are the ones who seem so annoyed that you are getting a so-called government handout. You would think they would be happy and say something even if it was sarcastic. But no, there is no acknowledgment what so ever. However, if somebody comes on here and ask for advice after a job loss, they are usually the first to chime in and start insulting them.
Maybe I'm wrong, but I think they are more annoyed at the fact that you got a job. Many people love to see other people fail. This is the only way some people can feel superior without having to succeed themselves.
Don't get me wrong, I don't really care if I have their approval or not. That was never my intention of staring this thread. I just wanted to point out my observation to see if anybody else has ever noticed this.
I didn't want to mention names, but I'm sure everybody knows the people I'm talking about.
After reading this forum over the last few months, I've seen many people (myself included) who have gotten jobs and told their story here. Most of the time you will get people who congratulate them and tell them how happy they are that they finally got a job. But, the one thing I've noticed is the people who constantly bash the unemployed never even acknowledge this.
You would think they would be the first to say something. After all, they are the ones who seem so annoyed that you are getting a so-called government handout. You would think they would be happy and say something even if it was sarcastic. But no, there is no acknowledgment what so ever. However, if somebody comes on here and ask for advice after a job loss, they are usually the first to chime in and start insulting them.
Maybe I'm wrong, but I think they are more annoyed at the fact that you got a job. Many people love to see other people fail. This is the only way some people can feel superior without having to succeed themselves.
Don't get me wrong, I don't really care if I have their approval or not. That was never my intention of staring this thread. I just wanted to point out my observation to see if anybody else has ever noticed this.
I didn't want to mention names, but I'm sure everybody knows the people I'm talking about.
Welcome to the real world-the majority of people want to see others fail
On a slightly related note, I was leafing thorugh our local small town paper this afternoon and noticed the Help Wanted section has 60% more ads than it did just a few months ago. Here's to hoping that's a really good sign for a lot of people.
I don't respond to all of the "yays, I got a job" because I don't see all of them, I don't know everyone who is stating it, and if there are already a load of congrats-- then I don't see the value of adding mine to the fray.
I think it is fantastic when anyone gets a job especially if they have been looking for awhile. There are some who I have recalled posting in the same threads as me since I have been around who I definitely congratulate whether it is through a PM or on the thread-- I have also responded to some that I am more acquainted with when I see that they didn't get a certain job, etc.
I responded to this because-- I am sure some think I am an unemployed hater-- others probably don't, but I thought I would at least give my perspective as well too.
After reading this forum over the last few months, I've seen many people (myself included) who have gotten jobs and told their story here. Most of the time you will get people who congratulate them and tell them how happy they are that they finally got a job. But, the one thing I've noticed is the people who constantly bash the unemployed never even acknowledge this.
You would think they would be the first to say something. After all, they are the ones who seem so annoyed that you are getting a so-called government handout. You would think they would be happy and say something even if it was sarcastic. But no, there is no acknowledgment what so ever. However, if somebody comes on here and ask for advice after a job loss, they are usually the first to chime in and start insulting them.
Maybe I'm wrong, but I think they are more annoyed at the fact that you got a job. Many people love to see other people fail. This is the only way some people can feel superior without having to succeed themselves.
Don't get me wrong, I don't really care if I have their approval or not. That was never my intention of staring this thread. I just wanted to point out my observation to see if anybody else has ever noticed this.
I didn't want to mention names, but I'm sure everybody knows the people I'm talking about.
Maybe they simply have nothing to say. Just because someone converses on a message board with someone else does not make them friends. It's just two people posting their opinions for the eyes of strangers.
I am happy that people get jobs. Very happy. But I don't think I would make the effort to wish them well, or say "congratulations" if I did not know them personally.
So, here. CONGRATULATIONS EVERYBODY WHO GOT A JOB. There.
I think some don't see the "I got a job" posts. Others may see them but they are not sure what to say b/c just saying "Congratulations" may sound too empty for them. Then, there are probably a few posters who have the mentality of, "Why are you bragging? You should have had a job the entire time! Now get to work and start making up for all the money you stole from me and my taxes."
I often comment to congratulate because I know how it is like to be unemployed for a long time and question everything in your life. I do it to let the OP know that their hard work paid off and to encourage readers and bring some positivity to this forum.
I admit I've bragged about my job and how I was fortunate to get it but I was something that changed my life forever.
I don't read every thread, and don't try to post in every thread. I don't know anyone personally, and of the members that are currently unemployed, I don't follow their stories. And I guess I don't feel the need to congratulate them when they find a job finally. I also don't think that those newly employed people notice me as a poster either.
Otherwise in real life and at work, I'm not that keen on signing those office birthday cards or chipping in for a group birthday present. While some of my co-workers have become good friends of mine, there are many who are just mere passing acquaintances to me. I don't believe in trying to fake caring about someone I don't care about. Maybe it's a New England thing.
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