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My girlfriend works for a small psychiatrists office. She really doesn't enjoy her job, but the pay is good and she will be leaving soon anyway. She has worked there for only about 3 months, and in another 3 she will be going back to grad school.
I think her boss has "crossed the line" with a few of his comments. He once asked her what was up with her chipped nail polish and requested she repaint them. I agree its kind of harmless, but still none of his business. She painted her nails the next day to fulfill his request. Another time, he asked her into his office alone and was asking her questions like what she thought about his car ($100K BMW SUV) and if she liked him, no mention of "as a person" or "as a boss" so it was up to my girlfriend to interpret.
I think his little odd questions and demands could be interpreted as flirtation, and it kind of worries me that he may decide to take things too far. Anyone else agree? Her boss is married BTW. Shes 24, hes like 45.
The comment about her nail polish is harmless. When reviewing my office dress code when hired, my HR manager explicitly said "no chipped nail polish, no messy hair, etc." Your girlfriend's boss may not have remembered to explicitly tell her about this when she was hired. As for his comments about his car and "liking him", they are probably flirtatious comments but she can brush them off. If/when he starts making rude comments to her, then there is a problem. Otherwise the boss is just trying to make the office environment a little more informal and friendly.
I work in a "business casual" office and this is normal. My boss (mid-40s) flirts with every woman in my company regardless of age (he flirts with a 60-something regularly) and regardless of attractiveness (he flirts with a woman who is 50+ lb overweight.) It's not my cup of tea, but most of the women here love it and play along even if they're married.
I wouldn't like the chipped polish either. I think it looks unprofessional. The other comments are questionable. It doesn't sound like he's really crossed the line though and since she's leaving in 3 more months I'd just deal until then unless he does something really inappropriate.
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I really don't see this stuff as a big deal yet. But I swear it seems he keeps getting closer and closer to doing something that will really make me P.Oed. I will let ya all know if I hear anything else suspicious.
I work in a "business casual" office and this is normal. My boss (mid-40s) flirts with every woman in my company regardless of age (he flirts with a 60-something regularly) and regardless of attractiveness (he flirts with a woman who is 50+ lb overweight.) It's not my cup of tea, but most of the women here love it and play along even if they're married.
I think her boss has "crossed the line" with a few of his comments. He once asked her what was up with her chipped nail polish and requested she repaint them. I agree its kind of harmless, but still none of his business. She painted her nails the next day to fulfill his request. Another time, he asked her into his office alone and was asking her questions like what she thought about his car ($100K BMW SUV) and if she liked him, no mention of "as a person" or "as a boss" so it was up to my girlfriend to interpret.
I am very concerned about the highlighted section. The concern is that if that perfectly acceptable professional business comment was viewed as "crossed the line" behavior, are you sure that the converstaion she had with her boss in his office is not tainted to have left out or added in commentary to create a "Cross the Line" scenerio in you mind?
My girlfriend works for a small psychiatrists office. She really doesn't enjoy her job, but the pay is good and she will be leaving soon anyway. She has worked there for only about 3 months, and in another 3 she will be going back to grad school.
I think her boss has "crossed the line" with a few of his comments. He once asked her what was up with her chipped nail polish and requested she repaint them. I agree its kind of harmless, but still none of his business. She painted her nails the next day to fulfill his request. Another time, he asked her into his office alone and was asking her questions like what she thought about his car ($100K BMW SUV) and if she liked him, no mention of "as a person" or "as a boss" so it was up to my girlfriend to interpret.
I think his little odd questions and demands could be interpreted as flirtation, and it kind of worries me that he may decide to take things too far. Anyone else agree? Her boss is married BTW. Shes 24, hes like 45.
He is controlling, sounds very like a man who wants to see how far he can get with these requests. The more she complies, the greater the requests will be.
Go watch "Secretary."
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