How much of your personal life do you reveal to your employer?
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OP, just my last thought on the matter...it's weird how people think it's okay to find out what sex your partner is, but it's taboo to ask what kind of sex you prefer. On top? with handcuffs? leather? etc. How people have sex or who they have it with is nobody's business. Just use the broken record technique: "I'd rather not discuss the father." End of story. You're not required to divulge anything more than that.
As far as your boss, "Am I performing my job satisfactorily?" Great. Again, end of story.
Best wishes to you, sweetie! And I hope you are able to move your family to a more unconventional-family-friendly state soon.
Yes, you are correct. I made it a point to find an OBGYN that works Saturdays, so that most of my appointments are on the weekend. I have never demanded anything of anyone and don't expect to start now. I am hoping to carry on so that my pregnancy is a non-issue. Period. I'm not going to talk about it, or have any baby showers.
Honey , you gotta have a baby shower, just don't throw it yourself, rent the local community center and
invite 2,300 coworkers...lol... congrats on your 'condition' and enjoy.
Koale
My boss doesn't even know my marital status or where I live. HR does, but my manager doesn't.
He doesn't know how many siblings I have, where I grew up, what high school I went to, or what I like to do in my free time. It isn't any of his business, quite frankly, and I'm very glad he doesn't stick his nose where it doesn't belong.
I've had jobs in the past where the boss (usually female) wanted to know everything about my life, down to my relationship with my parents and siblings, where I was going when I would take time off, and who I was dating. It was always awkward having to come up with lies for these questions. I obviously never said "none of your damned business" because I wanted to keep my job, so I just made up stuff.
My boss doesn't even know my marital status or where I live. HR does, but my manager doesn't.
He doesn't know how many siblings I have, where I grew up, what high school I went to, or what I like to do in my free time. It isn't any of his business, quite frankly, and I'm very glad he doesn't stick his nose where it doesn't belong.
I've had jobs in the past where the boss (usually female) wanted to know everything about my life, down to my relationship with my parents and siblings, where I was going when I would take time off, and who I was dating. It was always awkward having to come up with lies for these questions. I obviously never said "none of your damned business" because I wanted to keep my job, so I just made up stuff.
This is the best plan when going into a new job. Keep personal information about yourself TO yourself and not share all the details with every co-worker, especially your supervisor. The chances are very good that anything you reveal about yourself of a "personal nature" will probably come back to bite you in the butt eventually.
The less they know about you, the better since most information will just be used against you in the long run. Remember that most of your coworkers are NOT your friends, even if they act friendly. At the worthless hole of a company that I used to work at for a decade, I had plenty of "friends" - and it was surprising just how many of them were willing to pretend I never existed after the layoffs. If any of them were stranded on the side of the road today, I'd just drive right past them - I know better than to think that "friendships" developed at work mean anything. There are always a few exceptions, but watch your back, don't trust people just because they appear friendly, and don't share personal information.
The less they know about you, the better since most information will just be used against you in the long run. Remember that most of your coworkers are NOT your friends, even if they act friendly. At the worthless hole of a company that I used to work at for a decade, I had plenty of "friends" - and it was surprising just how many of them were willing to pretend I never existed after the layoffs. If any of them were stranded on the side of the road today, I'd just drive right past them - I know better than to think that "friendships" developed at work mean anything. There are always a few exceptions, but watch your back, don't trust people just because they appear friendly, and don't share personal information.
I learned this the hard way as well. Believe me, if someone claims to be your friend or acts like they're your friend but doesn't even deal with you outside of work chances are they're anything but a friend. I've been mostly a loner for much of my life and sometimes that can be a blessing in disguise!
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