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I am a higher level manager in healthcare. My position is essential to operations, and I take this responsibility very seriously. I have a subordinate who is also directly responsible for a department. We are both essentially responsible for facility operations. During the last two weeks, I worked 190 hours--no typo 190. This occurred because she refuses to pick-up time or commit to additional hours. She works about 45 to 50 hours a week. When asked to help work something out, she responds "I have a daughter here, and I need to spend time with her". This is a start-up, so extra time was an expectation on hire. Additionally, many of the shortages is because she has completed the work schedule incorrectly. I have discussed this with the COO, but the response is to give her consideration for her family because we can't easily replace her.
I don't care about some consideration, but the fact I don't have kids doesn't mean I should have to work through your schedule mistakes and cover every shift. They are your Children and your responsibility. As I have other offers, I am about to resign. Has anyone else experienced this at work? Is it an expectation that childless people should do more than others?
What is needed is for this employer to hire additional employees so that both you and her can work reasonable hours, children or not. Too bad our society doesn't believe in that.
I agree, but it is a start-up. We are hiring. It won't last forever, but in this difficult time, I should have a partner willing to shoulder some responsibility. In addition, I hire staff and she allows them to change the hours they were hired to work. In effect, I have ton of day shift staff and no one for evenings or nights. This occurs because she allows them to change their shifts. The "I have my daughter visiting" excuse gets stale--especially when you knew this would be a problem upon hire.
If you have to routinely work such insane hours the problem is with the staffing levels of the company and not the other employee. I think she is doing the right thing by pushing back and establishing boundaries. You need to do the same.
What is needed is for this employer to hire additional employees so that both you and her can work reasonable hours, children or not. Too bad our society doesn't believe in that.
And she is responsibly taking care of her children by working 50 hours and going home.
I am going to do the same. Your kids are your responsibility. Why accept a position that you knew would require extra hours? Sorry, but I am not going to cover so you can get paid to babysit. She also has visitation with her kid and not custody. She could have scheduled this at any time.
I am going to responsible and take care of myself. it will be hard to take care of your kids when you lose your job because I refuse to cover for you. Why not try to work on something mutual? Stop using your little special darling as an excuse. Don't accept a position you can't handle if your parenting takes so much of your time. This is a high level manager on a start-up, not a general I can't stay type position. Personally, I don't care about your kids. I didn't have them. If I did, I would make choices that allow me to balance my responsibilities.
If you have to routinely work such insane hours the problem is with the staffing levels of the company and not the other employee. I think she is doing the right thing by pushing back and establishing boundaries. You need to do the same.
This.
People will only see the futility of doing everything for your "career", later, when its almost too late.
Life is short, so live it, don't work it.
Bernie Sanders had some interesting things to say about this, recently.
We should be emulating Sweden, not China.
I am going to do the same. Your kids are your responsibility. Why accept a position that you knew would require extra hours? Sorry, but I am not going to cover so you can get paid to babysit. She also has visitation with her kid and not custody. She could have scheduled this at any time.
I am going to responsible and take care of myself. it will be hard to take care of your kids when you lose your job because I refuse to cover for you. Why not try to work on something mutual? Stop using your little special darling as an excuse. Don't accept a position you can't handle if your parenting takes so much of your time. This is a high level manager on a start-up, not a general I can't stay type position. Personally, I don't care about your kids. I didn't have them. If I did, I would make choices that allow me to balance my responsibilities.
There are ways to make this work. Decide ahead that she would work extra hours every other week or every third week. Working from home after hours may work.
That said you sound extremely bitter and at this point just want nothing to work. Might be the stress from working 190 hours in a fortnight.
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