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Originally Posted by jojo775
I really would like constructive feed back and not the "it's not your business" it's between her and management" because I'm really just trying to understand if this is normal practice at a large company? The last one I worked at for many years would have fired her long ago. She has been here almost 2 years. First 2 months she had every excuse to be late or call in. Sometimes a week at a time. Now she is late or taking many days off because her daughter is sick. She was off for a week last month when her daughter supposedly tried to OD and after that kept leaving early for appointments. Now she is off again and nobody knows when she will be back because her daughter supposedly ODed again. People are starting to get a little frustrated because we always have to cover her work. I understand her daughter has issues but you also have a job that you need to be reliable for and then you also have to start to question what is the truth. There is always drama with her it seems and she tells everyone everythiing. Also she still takes all her vacation days even though she has been absent so often.
Sorry, but it's "it's not your business".
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Originally Posted by convextech
You have asked this question over and over, and the answers are the same every time. Mind your own business. If you don't like the situation, get another job somewhere else. It's really that simple, whether she is your cousin or not.
That said, you really should be thankful that your employer is so understanding. After all, one of your posts infers that you probably have cancer and are in denial about it.
Amazing! Wish I could rep you but will have to wait until I've spread it around.
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Originally Posted by convextech
You have asked this question over and over, and the answers are the same every time. Mind your own business. If you don't like the situation, get another job somewhere else. It's really that simple, whether she is your cousin or not.
That said, you really should be thankful that your employer is so understanding. After all, one of your posts infers that you probably have cancer and are in denial about it.
And wtf is with the bullying above. I thought this was a discussion board. Not a place where people make you feel like an idiot.
Oh man, welcome to W&E forum, you'll get that and more. But they don't call it "Bullying" THEY say "But we are discussing, it's just not what YOU want discussed".
I didn't mean to imply that people have a right to knowledge about someone's personal business (though in my experience these type of people enjoy telling their coworkers all the little details of their problems, in a bid for sympathy). I'm simply saying she does have a right to be concerned if the solution to the continuous absences is to simply pass off the work to the remaining coworkers.
Telling an employee 'it's none of your business, get back to work" is poor mgt in my opinion. Much better to acknowledge there is an issue and ask the remaining employees to pitch in until the problem is resolved, and show some appreciation for the extra work they have to do.
It really isn't any wonder morale at many companies seems to be at such an all time low when employers can't be bothered to address small issues like this.
Technically with HIPAA and FMLA the management can't really disclose anything about the person to their co-workers.
The OP needs to be more proactive (ie, actually talking to management and/or looking for another job) instead of creating multiple threads looking for sympathy. But from their post history, they seem to be a nosy busybody that doesn't take anyone's advice (even their doctor is wrong) so they'll probably make yet another thread about this same issue in a couple of weeks.
OK so she told us today the reason she was out again for 3 days is because she has to attend family meeting and always be at the hospital for her kid. She can't come to work because the hospital tells her she has to be there?
I can sort of understand the OP issue. I remember years ago one of the admin folks was diagnosed with MS. She was ok for a long time, graduated to a wheelchair and then was further disabled. She missed so much work, and the other clericals had to do her work. She could of taken disability or early federal retirement, but she would not.
OK so she told us today the reason she was out again for 3 days is because she has to attend family meeting and always be at the hospital for her kid. She can't come to work because the hospital tells her she has to be there?
If someone cannot show up for work, barring some kind of funky and weird legally protected statuses, then that person will not have a job.
Everyone can be replaced tomorrow. Probably even the same day. Everyone.
Hope this helps...
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