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I really don't like it and find her pretty annoying and intrusive. I'm fairly new at my job (3 months) and I'm used to having a boss that is very "hands off". I prefer it that way. I'm not one of those people that likes to socialize with colleagues. I go to work to do my work while being nice and professional of course. My manager will ask questions about my plans on my personal time or when I was sick. I really prefer to be vague but I don't want to come across unfriendly or not a "team player"
Probably just trying to be human with you rather than an automaton boss. Give as much personal info as you'd like but I don't necessarily see this as a bad thing. If they have ulterior motives with their questioning then maybe I'd be concerned but I can't tell if that's the case unless I was there.
Ugh.
This is tricky because if she thinks you don't want to be close she might try to make it seem like you're not a team player. People often don't handle rejection well. Is she one of those "we're all one big happy family" types, or is she only trying to get chummy with YOU?
I'd continue to be vague, and turn the conversation back to work related matters.
Ugh.
This is tricky because if she thinks you don't want to be close she might try to make it seem like you're not a team player. People often don't handle rejection well. Is she one of those "we're all one big happy family" types, or is she only trying to get chummy with YOU?
I'd continue to be vague, and turn the conversation back to work related matters.
I'm not sure if she is one of those types or not. I think she way too nosy though and it makes me uncomfortable. I don't come to work to make friends and learnt a very valuable lesson in one of my past jobs by being friendly.
Keep every conversation at work strictly about business. I have learned my lessons from previous jobs and only discuss business matters at work. Some people from work have tried adding me as their facebook friends and I declined. I have accepted their invite on linkedIn.
Keep every conversation at work strictly about business. I have learned my lessons from previous jobs and only discuss business matters at work. Some people from work have tried adding me as their facebook friends and I declined. I have accepted their invite on linkedIn.
I'm definitely trying to do that. Its hard because she is so intrusive.
I say give her a little bit of information but not crossing a line. Like "oh it was great, I spent time with my family" or "we're heading to the mountains" type of chat so you're friendly enough. Or if you were sick "I'm all better now" is sufficient.She is probably just trying to show that she cares about you as a person and an employee.
I say give her a little bit of information but not crossing a line. Like "oh it was great, I spent time with my family" or "we're heading to the mountains" type of chat so you're friendly enough. Or if you were sick "I'm all better now" is sufficient.She is probably just trying to show that she cares about you as a person and an employee.
Completely agree. Be vague enough where you're still being polite but she still has no idea about your personal life. I do this at work all the time and it works like a charm.
Personally, I do not run into many nosy people, I find that most people are perfectly willing to spend 100% of the conversation talking solely about themselves if you let them. Just redirect with a non-answer and a question about their own weekend and they're off and running.
Oftentimes, people may only ask you about YOUR weekend/plans/whatever because they actually want to talk about their own, so if you just say a few bland words and bounce it back to them, that's often all it takes to end any uncomfortable questions about your own life.
The downside is if you get too good at this, they'll start coming to you all the time and talking at you for long stretches of time while you just sit there and toss in the occasional "that's cool" or "oh really?" to be polite. But, there are strategies for that too, once you get to that point.
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