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So I've been at my current job for six months or so. I'm in an office job. The set up is where you have a laptop that can be linked to a bigger monitor. I feel most comfortable using my laptop and never use the alternate screen. As such I'm always looking slightly down. A colleague of mine who is no longer with the company started a rumor that I was sleep when I was working because I'm always looking down. I also wear earbuds to block out everyone.
We work in an open cubical free environment. This rumor has spread around the office and I've heard sarcastic comments about it. I just ignore it and don't feed any energy into it. I get my work done and have had no performance issues. As of late there is a coworker of mine who will pass by my desk and stand behind me to see if my monitor is moving or randomly scream my name and perpetuates this nonsense that I'm sleeping at work. Well today I had enough. This guy comes behind me and while I sense him I ignore him. Then he goes on the side of me. He then starts knocking on my desk, screams my name and says - must be out like a light. The whole time I ignore him and keep working. My soul wanted to jump up and strangle him but I refused. He then goes to the other side of me and starts jumping up and down, pointing, making jester moves all the like to get my attention which I refuse to give. I finally look up and say "Stop It. Just Stop it"
He apologizes and walks out.
Mind you this is Corporate America. I'm a Manager for a multi billion dollar company and he is a senior manager. We don't work in the same functional area and are paths don't have to cross. My question is, How should I deal with this guy if he continues to antagonize me? Should I address the rumors once and for all or continue to ignore them? Should I further set him straight and ask him to stay away from me? What would you do?
Why would you ignore a situation that is obviously spinning out of control?
Taking your story at face value, there are many little things that you could do in order to correct the situation, yet you refuse to take action, and you continue behavior that is causing controversy. You bear much of the blame here.
Acknowledging the occasional coworker would help. Mirroring your laptop to the monitor would help, and you could still look st the smaller screen.
You seem to revel in the dissension you are causing.
Why would you ignore a situation that is obviously spinning out of control?
Taking your story at face value, there are many little things that you could do in order to correct the situation, yet you refuse to take action, and you continue behavior that is causing controversy. You bear much of the blame here.
Acknowledging the occasional coworker would help. Mirroring your laptop to the monitor would help, and you could still look st the smaller screen.
You seem to revel in the dissension you are causing.
Thanks for your response. I don't revel in the situation. I wish I would get to a place where I could just be left a lone come to work do my job and go home all while being unbothered yet there is always someone trying to start dramas or problems with me. How mature is it for a grown man to do what this guy did. He didn't want my attention he was just trying to cause a scene with me. You are right I could mirror the screen or I could feed into them and acknowledge them instead of ignoring them. I truly feel like its darn if I do and darn if I don't. I feel like I was taking the higher road by ignoring them and not giving them a reaction but maybe I should play into them and hope that itll go away.
You may be right in what you are saying, but .... come on ... it is inviting to make fun of you.
Don't you sit on a chair and your laptop is on the table? How can you look down in a way that makes you look asleep? Honestly, it seems like you are the odd one and people are just reacting to it. If you were in my office, they would probably throw stuff at you and decorate you
The problem is I consider their "reactions" as bullying. The more I ignore them the more they want to attack. I'm not looking down where my neck is at 90 degrees but there is a glance down. The main issue I have is why cant everyone at work just mind their own business and leave me alone? My posture isn't bothering anyone else. It isn't keeping anyone from doing their work. If I followed my first mind and got up and slapped one of them or cussed them out then I would look out of control and in the wrong. When I ignore them I'm in the wrong. People who approach me with legitimate questions and concerns don't get ignored but this guy yesterday had nothing but ill intent.
Dude, if stuff like this keeps happening (at least two jobs now so far based on a post above and this one) then maybe you need to take a look at yourself. You're the common denominator in both bad situations.
Dude, if stuff like this keeps happening (at least two jobs now so far based on a post above and this one) then maybe you need to take a look at yourself. You're the common denominator in both bad situations.
Both threads have the commonality of me being bullied at work. Whether I try to ignore or confront the situations I seem to keep being in a no win situation. The reason why I post here is for advice not condemnation. How would you address it?
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