Sleeping At Work

[Suburban_Guy]

Originally Posted by chiluvr1228

Go to Human Resources.

Exactly.

OP isn't really looking for any meaningful resolution and advice on here, but if OP were truly serious I'd go to management then HR.

Everyone can always talk the talk, but can they walk the walk.

[RNW2015]

Originally Posted by Suburban_Guy

Exactly.

OP isn't really looking for any meaningful resolution and advice on here, but if OP were truly serious I'd go to management then HR.

Everyone can always talk the talk, but can they walk the walk.

I'm definitely looking for meaningful advice and have seen some good tips throughout the thread. I appreciate everyone who has commented. My goal was for advice on how to deal with this guy directly to get him to stop. Ultimately if he continues and the direct approach of handling him or anyone similar to him doesn't work I will go to management and HR. But throughout my career I've learned to use HR as a last resort.

[RNW2015]

Originally Posted by zentropa

Do you have any insight into why you specifically are being targeted?

Are you willing to try some of the suggestions in this thread to appear more collegial? It appears your job may rely on it.

I don't know why I'm being targeted. I can only guess. I do know misery loves company and when you don't engage in misery some people get hot and bothered. This guy and those who surround themselves with him are some of the most miserable that I've met. They complain about their lives, their jobs, family and make slide remarks about others all the time. I think I'm the only one they've taking it past remarks and whose space they've invaded. The more ignore them the stronger and more intense their tactics become. Plus they use isolation techniques and try to bring others into their fold.

Like I said I ignore them but I feel like this week while not hitting me or touching me he invaded space and personal boundaries which I wont tolerate so I broke and told him to Stop It.

Unfortunately some people cant stand to see others who are about their jobs and just going home and moving on with their lives.

I don't open up to them because they are people who will use any and everything against you. They are always trying to find nuggets of unhappiness in others. Most of the time I speak and reply when spoken to but I refuse to give them too much insight into my life outside of work and that bothers them. Could I open up and tell them all my business? Yes, but trust me no good would come out of that either. Part of the reason I wear earbuds is too block out their poisonous talk, gossip, slander and the like. Again I appreciate everyone's advice but I have no interest in speaking to these folks beyond greetings.

[convextech]

Originally Posted by RNW2015

As of late there is a coworker of mine who will pass by my desk and stand behind me to see if my monitor is moving or randomly scream my name and perpetuates this nonsense that I'm sleeping at work. Well today I had enough. This guy comes behind me and while I sense him I ignore him. Then he goes on the side of me. He then starts knocking on my desk, screams my name and says - must be out like a light. The whole time I ignore him and keep working. My soul wanted to jump up and strangle him but I refused.

You are perpetuating the rumor by ignoring him repeatedly. Why would you allow this to happen past one time?

[RNW2015]

Originally Posted by convextech

You are perpetuating the rumor by ignoring him repeatedly. Why would you allow this to happen past one time?

I can see your point. At the time I thought ignoring it and not feeding into him or given a reaction was the best solution. Lesson learned.