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Old 07-01-2019, 08:57 AM
 
Location: TN/NC
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I've never emotionally blown up, but I was clearly on my way out at my last employer. Within five months, I was placed on a PIP, and was likely going to lose my job, but fortunately found another before then.

I turned in my notice and let HR and my manager's manager know that I felt like I never had a chance. My manager's manager was hired after me, and noticed a lot of the issues. My team members and immediate manager offered no support or willingness to show me anything. I came in my last day and simply handed my keys to the HR manager and walked out the door.
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Old 07-01-2019, 10:17 AM
 
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Never burn Bridges, ever. Its a small world and you never know how people from your past can suddenly be part of your future.

I've had people treat me horribly, the worst possible way that I professionally would ever want to be treated but I bit my tongue as was always polite and helpful (within reason).. even on the day it resulted a layoff.

Though they have burned the bridge with me and if I was ever in a position to hire them or not, I wouldn't bc I now know their character, they.. and more importantly, the company.... have no reason to feel the same for me...
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Old 07-01-2019, 04:45 PM
 
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Generally no unless you want to go back to the employer you already left, but why would you leave a quality employer? They are very hard to come by these days. And if its lousy why go back? Crappy companies and work environments, rarely if ever change for the better
Depends on your field. I work in a pretty narrow area of technical expertise, and even in the greater LA area, I run into the same people constantly. One's reputation is a worthwhile asset to maintain.
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Old 07-01-2019, 05:37 PM
 
Location: Port Charlotte FL
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like the old saying goes..."never burn a bridge you might have to go back across"
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Old 07-01-2019, 11:02 PM
 
Location: 53179
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Also, if I do something really dumb and I get fired. I apply at a different location and they see where I worked before. 100% chance they will call their friend, ex classmate, ex manager etc and ask about me.
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Old 07-02-2019, 05:59 AM
 
Location: Vermont
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I know of a couple of people who were fired in pretty dramatic circumstances. When I worked at a small accounting firm about a decade ago, one woman did not get along well with this one manager at all. She basically got into a shouting match with the manager and was fired on the spot. A few months later, she was hired by another accounting firm. I looked her up, and she is now a manager herself at the accounting firm that hired her. Obviously, her firing didn't affect her that much in the long run.

Another person is someone at my current job who had some personality conflicts with management and he got kicked out on the spot after a confrontation with my boss (and his boss at the time). A few months later, he got hired on at an accounting firm in a different city, making more money than what he made at the job he was fired from.

Both of these people left on very bad terms, but yet they were just speed bumps in their career paths. I've always heard that you should be worried about "burning bridges," but these people practically nuked their bridges and they came out alright.
I used to think about this but now I believe that, even if you leave an employer under undesirable circumstances, they cannot tell a potential employer that 'he was fired (or quit) after a shouting match with the boss.' I believe all they can talk about is your actual work performance. But I could be wrong.
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Old 07-02-2019, 06:09 AM
 
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I know of a couple of people who were fired in pretty dramatic circumstances. When I worked at a small accounting firm about a decade ago, one woman did not get along well with this one manager at all. She basically got into a shouting match with the manager and was fired on the spot. A few months later, she was hired by another accounting firm. I looked her up, and she is now a manager herself at the accounting firm that hired her. Obviously, her firing didn't affect her that much in the long run.

Another person is someone at my current job who had some personality conflicts with management and he got kicked out on the spot after a confrontation with my boss (and his boss at the time). A few months later, he got hired on at an accounting firm in a different city, making more money than what he made at the job he was fired from.

Both of these people left on very bad terms, but yet they were just speed bumps in their career paths. I've always heard that you should be worried about "burning bridges," but these people practically nuked their bridges and they came out alright.
Outta order? Why, I’ll show you outta order.

If I was the man I was 5 years ago, I’d take a FLAMETHROWER to this place! But I’m too old. I’m too f’in blind.
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Old 07-02-2019, 06:16 AM
 
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like the old saying goes..."never burn a bridge you might have to go back across"
There’s also an old saying about “passing the rubicon”.
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Old 07-02-2019, 06:51 AM
 
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In most workplaces, people blame the person who has left for any mistakes that have been discovered. Bad mouth those who have left. I never let anyone know where I go. I don’t have a LinkedIn account for that reason.

Sadly all the places I’ve worked at were hostile.
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Old 07-02-2019, 09:28 AM
 
Location: Raleigh
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I know of a couple of people who were fired in pretty dramatic circumstances. When I worked at a small accounting firm about a decade ago, one woman did not get along well with this one manager at all. She basically got into a shouting match with the manager and was fired on the spot. A few months later, she was hired by another accounting firm. I looked her up, and she is now a manager herself at the accounting firm that hired her. Obviously, her firing didn't affect her that much in the long run.

Another person is someone at my current job who had some personality conflicts with management and he got kicked out on the spot after a confrontation with my boss (and his boss at the time). A few months later, he got hired on at an accounting firm in a different city, making more money than what he made at the job he was fired from.

Both of these people left on very bad terms, but yet they were just speed bumps in their career paths. I've always heard that you should be worried about "burning bridges," but these people practically nuked their bridges and they came out alright.
You'll never know if the burning comes back to affect them...

It doesn't happen in the first year, typically...What's more likely is that the boss they screamed at takes a job over them at the new firm, or the old firm acquires the new firm...

In some jobs/careers it doesn't seem to be a huge deal. Notably, Car Sales and Realty.
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