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Old 07-03-2019, 04:06 PM
 
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Writing this out sounds petty. Me and this other woman sit directly opposite, facing away from each other. She literally copies or tries to compete with EVERYTHING i do. If i get up, wear a certain thing, wear my hair a certain way, suck my teeth, she will do the same thing, but she tries to one up me. Meaning she’ll try to beat me to it the next time. Everyone usually just eats lunch at their desk, I’ve started leaving the office so that she’s not checking to see what im eating (she does that too, or checking my pc screen, etc.) she let me get away with it a few times without imitating me, now she leaves for 30 mins earlier than i do. (Again, sounds petty, why should i care, it’s just weird) It’s more annoying than anything but I have caught her, a few times with her cell phone camera pointed my way. I cant prove she’s taken pictures, but i did hear the snapshot sound once as she walked to her desk. She’s just extremely annoying. I would love to move desks, but there’s no where to move. Just deal with it?
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Old 07-03-2019, 04:31 PM
 
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She likes you. A lot. You two should go bowling after work.
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Old 07-03-2019, 04:40 PM
 
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Monitor situation and if it doesn't improve, notify supervisor and HR.
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Old 07-03-2019, 04:41 PM
 
Location: equator
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^^^"Bowling after work" LOL. Good one.

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. She might just be looking for someone to emulate, not being confident in her own "style".

I agree, though, flattery or not, it's creepy. Don't know what you could do, though...
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Old 07-03-2019, 05:41 PM
 
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She likes you. A lot. You two should go bowling after work.
LOL. Good comment.

To OP, I've never had a co-worker like that. That is very weird. You can ask a co-worker that you can trust to observe her. If your trustable co-worker agrees with you that the other co-worker is creepy as you say, report her to your manager. If you can't move desk, ask for a 7-foot divider to put between your desk and hers.
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Old 07-03-2019, 06:43 PM
 
Location: Seattle
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Don't know if this would work for you or not but in past rare occasions I've used this technique to some success.

When you have the occasion walk up to her and give an enthusiastic Hi! or Hello!, and just stand there steadily keeping an unflinching gaze. If she responds, ask "How ya doing?", nodding your head enthusiastically, never breaking eye contact.
Response or not, make sure she's the one turns away.
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Old 07-03-2019, 07:44 PM
 
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Don't know if this would work for you or not but in past rare occasions I've used this technique to some success.

When you have the occasion walk up to her and give an enthusiastic Hi! or Hello!, and just stand there steadily keeping an unflinching gaze. If she responds, ask "How ya doing?", nodding your head enthusiastically, never breaking eye contact.
Response or not, make sure she's the one turns away.
That sounds weird and creepy too. So creepy meets creepy. What if the OP's co-worker could stare right back to the OP unflinching; so they would have staring contest. Haha. That's weird working environment. Somebody in the management needs to step in to help to make the environment to be harmony for everyone to work.
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Old 07-05-2019, 01:19 PM
 
Location: Seattle
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That sounds weird and creepy too. So creepy meets creepy. What if the OP's co-worker could stare right back to the OP unflinching; so they would have staring contest. Haha. That's weird working environment. Somebody in the management needs to step in to help to make the environment to be harmony for everyone to work.
It's not that creepy but it is communicating that you are aware of her attention and not afraid of it.

Anyone I've known engaging in that behavior does back down.

Passive-Aggression meets confrontation, confrontation wins.
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Old 07-05-2019, 01:26 PM
 
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I agree with that creepy vs creepy approach.

She'll stop once she sees how creepy you're being to her.
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Old 07-05-2019, 02:06 PM
 
Location: Fuquay Varina
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I would change it up all the time. Let her go to lunch early then pull yours out and eat peacefully. She pulls hers out the next day, then you go out to lunch. Bring something for lunch that won't spoil right away so you can eat it for dinner or lunch the next day if you need to go out.
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