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I sent my letter today and he just wrote back saying he’s sending it on to HR. So he didn’t offer anymore money. Yesterday he did ask if there anything he could do to get me to stay and I just said not at this time. He also told my co workers before I had a chance to. Oh well.
When I left my last job I had direct reports who were very upset that I would be gone. They've since moved onto new companies where they love their jobs even more than before with bosses that they love more as well.
It's possible you might start the new job and love it even more than your last job. If your boss works in a different state entirely then I don't see why you would feel any sort of connection or obligation to him. If they didn't even offer to counter then it seems like they have no interest in retaining you. I would move on for the better opportunity.
I believe you said you have never met your boss in person. You also said there's a lot of turnover.
He's not sad you found another opportunity; he's annoyed he needs to fill your roll in a high turnover job. Definitely move on. Even if you don't love your new job you would be looking for the next one from a better position. Best wishes
It's not their call. I did the counteroffer thing once and it worked out poorly. They might be fine with you staying on for now, but it's kind of like a "cheating spouse" syndrome where they'll always be wondering when you'll leave.
Even if you stayed, it would only be temporary. If you want out bad enough to find a better job, whatever it is will make you leave regardless, it may be postponed but you won't stay. Go now.
It’s making me feel torn. I think the new job is a better career opportunity, they’re paying me more, better benefits. But I worry that it could be a high pressure environment. I don’t think my current job is too high pressure but I’ve overall found it to be a pain and I’m not interested in the product or industry
What if I’m horrible at my next job. I really don’t know.
If you want to grow, you have to try new things, even if they scare you.
Earlier this year, I had a very good employee give notice after five months. She got a higher paying job with a bit more stress but more fulfilling. She didn't want to leave me (apparently). I asked what it would take to stay and then she kept changing the goal line. When it finally came down to it, the CFO and my boss wouldn't match her counter offer and I told her that she should leave. They were saying that "millennials these days" just want more pay, etc. I thought that employee was doing well and would've moved up over time. However, with the offer and management not meeting her demands, it was best to go. She left and is in a better place. It's not always a bed of roses but it's better.
Let's see how long it is before this thread by this OP is closed.
It's very telling when people can't accept certain responses, then pick up their marbles and go home.
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