Daughters friend stealing things

I have a daughter from age 8. She has bunch of friends. Comparing to whole class there are 25 kids but only 6 girls. She is friend with every one. She play with every one but the story goes about Pinky( Name from air)
Pinky is so adorable, very polite, talk very soft. And every one likes her. Also she gives lots of gifts to her friends. My daughter received some some items more often. So I used buy some little gift and send via my daughter as a thank you or admiring what pinky did.( what I regret at the moment ) Form my daughters friends community this Pinky is more frequent visitor by us mean she comes most of the time after school. Some times stay for the dinner. My daughter likes her very much and lives next block to us.

My daughter losing things. Like earrings little bracelets what my daughter self made or little items what she got at gifts and she kept on the table or little toys. When she was complaining I thought she might misplaced it as all other kids do. Drop somewhere for more safe in a box or in a bag .But I have searched with her,and I used let my daughter to understand what is lost is lost and let it go.

while waiting to pick my daughter I hear one mother said "I find this is irritating some one is in this group stealing, my daughter lost a flute yesterday" and another mother said"mine lost a little Eiffel tower" Voila ......I took everything to my mind,but I kept silence I don't like accuse any one with out seeing my self.
As usual pinky came to play, I thought of making this clear. Because if she is stealing I am bringing my child also in to a danger also Pinky is growing in to a thief. So I thought of letting my eyes to see. I left an old pair of earrings in the bathroom. I could see that what is happening in the bathroom from my cupboard mirror. And I sit on my bed and kept my eye.

Pinky went to the bathroom but did not see the earring I left on bath room table.took the little step and stand on her toes open the cupboards looking for something. In the same time she look around too. She went in to a little box with little soaps like hearts and flowers. she took two and right moment drop in her pocket I appear in front of her. I decently asked" pinky what are you doing in my cupboard" and why taking soap? you just need to ask I will give you if you like them. But what you did is not acceptable. And I asked to get ready to go home. I walked with her to her house but parents were not home. I have told Pinky brother that I want to talk to her. And I came home.
Afternoon Pinky mother called and I have told her exactly what happened. Her mother shocked me more" she is not a thief. She never do that. I think this is might be an excuse to ask my daughter not to come to play more often and hang the phone"
I was out of words about this mother. Well I am not asking any one to accept me, at least listen about what it is. Soap is not a big deal but what her child doing is a big deal. How ever week end was quiet.

Early this morning after the week end, I took my daughter to school and I thought of giving information to the teacher but with no names. And I took every gift my daughter receive from pinky too in a bag.I thought of going to behavior mentor, But before that Pinky's mother ran to me. She was exhausted panicked half way crying. Breathing different, I felt she was in a shock. I calm her down and then she apologized me for not listening to me. My mind went to the other parents who were complaining that their kids lost something. I thought they might already told the school or something but she was crying and told me.

" I am truly sorry that I did not listen to you when you try to talk to me about pinky,what she did at your place, I think you had a good point and I feel so regret that I did not listen to you, my husband also blaming me that I start directly white my daughter with out listening whoever say something about her. Saturday she went to a birthday party with some relatives. And the party was in theme park and when every one went to a shop Pinky stolen chain with a pendant in it and she puts in her pockets and when they leave the alarm went off and security arrives to the shop. Security ask them to leave the park immediately. And now the relatives are mad because they lost their daughters birthday party because of Pinky stole something"

I understand the stress of the mother. But I did not want to please this mother either. I said " believing it or not does not matter, at least listen when some one complain about your daughter, I know our own kids are holy kids for us but that is not always true, they can act, behave different out side of the house, and whitening does not bring any good, but a damage to her" and I went in to the class and gave a hug to my daughter and I thought now Pinky's parents already in pain why should I add more so I will go home with keeping my mouth shut and walk out side of the class.

But Behavior mentor ran to me and ask if she can talk to me,I went to her office and she drop lot of items on the table and ask if I recognize anything in their. many little little items not only that what my daughter lost, one of my wrist watches there too what I did not even know as lost. She asked me to sit and she said " I received all these items from the parents in class their kids got as gifts from Pinky and they feel something is not right there and they brought everything to me,, some thing is not good at all with Pinky. I feel so sorry for this child", When she said that I gave the bag what I carried in the morning. I said I have what my daughter received too. I was thinking to give it to you and mention what happened with out any name. I have added the items to the table.

I think parents of pinky at least learned a lesson. I pray for this child to grow in to a good woman with good qualities.