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Girl, just forget about him right now. He's fine. He's back out of the state. It's time to get your holiday spirit on.
You are not kidding and it's ON LIKE DONKEY KONG! My daughter and her husband and my four perfect grandkids are driving in this evening! I CAN HARDLY WAIT!!!!!!!!!!
You are not kidding and it's ON LIKE DONKEY KONG! My daughter and her husband and my four perfect grandkids are driving in this evening! I CAN HARDLY WAIT!!!!!!!!!!
HOORAY! Enjoy and live for the day! Have fun, relax--Happy Thanksgiving.
They are here! I hear rustling around upstairs so they're waking up. They drove 14 hours in one day - ugh. We had a very pleasant evening with them when they got in. WOOHOOOOO!!!!!
They are here! I hear rustling around upstairs so they're waking up. They drove 14 hours in one day - ugh. We had a very pleasant evening with them when they got in. WOOHOOOOO!!!!!
Happy Thanksgiving to your family, KA!! Glad they arrived safe and sound after a long drive. Best wishes for the many memories you'll be making this weekend! I know your mom and the residents there will enjoy hearing your grandchildren playing their instruments. I play piano and organ, and for several years I used to play hymns twice a month for a Sunday service at a Nursing facility.
Sister is insisting I come. Step-brother might come, which would be great. I really don't know them since we were kids. Brother's situation has brought me and sister together. Interesting, as caregiving seemed to rip at the seams of my bio-family for so long. I hate to count chickens that aren't hatched but brother is fine for the first time in so many years and now this. Feels nice.
Had a few relatives over and it was a nice change.
After they left, I called my cousin in memory care (other side of the family) and she asked when I was coming to take her home. That was unexpected. She kept saying to take her back to her house. I tried to explain that the place she lives is her home now and she got mad, said she hates it there, does she have to live there for the rest of her life? and hung up on me.
Had a few relatives over and it was a nice change.
After they left, I called my cousin in memory care (other side of the family) and she asked when I was coming to take her home. That was unexpected. She kept saying to take her back to her house. I tried to explain that the place she lives is her home now and she got mad, said she hates it there, does she have to live there for the rest of her life? and hung up on me.
So that is that.
We went through those type of discussions with my mother. We would try to reason with her before we accepted that the dementia was making her unreasonable.
We were advised at a dementia seminar that if the dementia is becoming advanced, it is best to say something such as we will discuss you going home with the doctor. Or we might be able to take you next week. I found it really hard to basically lie to my mother but this strategy seemed to work, keeping her calm.
We went through those type of discussions with my mother. We would try to reason with her before we accepted that the dementia was making her unreasonable.
We were advised at a dementia seminar that if the dementia is becoming advanced, it is best to say something such as we will discuss you going home with the doctor. Or we might be able to take you next week. I found it really hard to basically lie to my mother but this strategy seemed to work, keeping her calm.
Thanks. She used to say I stole her car. Or stole something else. But ever since she's been in memory care, she hasn't been like that. But here we go again. Makes me not even want to go visit her if I'm going to get that. They do say to go just before dinner in case the person throws you out or things become otherwise unpleasant. Then at least you can go get something to eat somewhere.
Had a few relatives over and it was a nice change.
After they left, I called my cousin in memory care (other side of the family) and she asked when I was coming to take her home. That was unexpected. She kept saying to take her back to her house. I tried to explain that the place she lives is her home now and she got mad, said she hates it there, does she have to live there for the rest of her life? and hung up on me.
So that is that.
Oh my, just a few months ago my mom was on this tear - now she's got such severe dementia she can hardly even communicate at all - that's how short a time between stages it was for her.
These are hard conversations so my advice is simply, don't try to reason with her and certainly don't argue with her. Change the subject and if she comes back around to it, just say "Oh, gotta go!" and exit.
It does get easier.
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grandkids are driving in this evening! I CAN HARDLY WAIT!!!!!!!!!!