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Idk how I coulda forgotten lying. It's probably my worst downfall right now. I've gotten better, but I still tell the stupidest lies to cover my behind. Little stupid lies like I forgot to get something from the grocery store.
I'll say they were oout of it to avoid an argument instead. Lord I need to quit that. As soon as I realize I do it I wince.
materialism and greed. I've had more than my share of high credit card balances, and it's hard to get me to donate money. Just recently I decided to try and be more giving. I'm hoping that habit will lead to me being a more cheerful giver.
You know I seriously think we're all guilty of gossip. I know I am. If I were to deny it, I'd be guilty of lying. A kind of a Catch 22, huh? One thing I heard taught in church once, though, that really helped me not to get too awfully caught up in gossiping was to ask yourself these three questions before repeating something about someone:
1. Is it nice?
2. Is it true?
3. Is it necessary?
Who is guilty of spreading "nice" rumors about people. No one. If it's "nice" it probably doesn't count as gossip in the first place. Nobody minds having nice things spread around about them. It's the malicious, mean stuff that hurts.
Is it true? Well, most of us probably wouldn't intentionally spread around lies about someone, so we do tend to at least try to verify the truth of what we say first. What we often don't do is ask ourselves what we hope to accomplish by gossiping about someone. Even if what we are saying is true, if it's not nice, why are we saying it? What do we expect to gain by unnecessarily spreading hurtful information about someone else, even if what we're saying is true.
Good post,and as far as being true,unless we know for sure,we should consider it heresay.(boy is my sister in law going to find out quite a few lies her youngest brother has told that are not true at all someday! yet they spread lies,ie-gossip,like it's the truth.)
these are the root to every thing we battle.
unbelief ; because we would like it if God wasn't looking all the time.
disobedience ; because we fail to ask for His direction in our lives as we should, and making decisions baised on one's own understanding is still independence of God.
The first words of Jesus ministry , as a matter of fact even the Acts record of gospel teaching is REPENT. not come to God as you are. If repentence does not preceed the aproach to God , one is simply including God to their life thinking that He is compromising with their sin , sorry No such compromise exists.
Oh honey please! I'm bad at that too. I try to make sure it's a confirmed truth before I spread tho.
Wow I'm bad.
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Originally Posted by Katzpur
You know I seriously think we're all guilty of gossip. I know I am. If I were to deny it, I'd be guilty of lying. A kind of a Catch 22, huh? One thing I heard taught in church once, though, that really helped me not to get too awfully caught up in gossiping was to ask yourself these three questions before repeating something about someone:
1. Is it nice?
2. Is it true?
3. Is it necessary?
Who is guilty of spreading "nice" rumors about people. No one. If it's "nice" it probably doesn't count as gossip in the first place. Nobody minds having nice things spread around about them. It's the malicious, mean stuff that hurts.
Is it true? Well, most of us probably wouldn't intentionally spread around lies about someone, so we do tend to at least try to verify the truth of what we say first. What we often don't do is ask ourselves what we hope to accomplish by gossiping about someone. Even if what we are saying is true, if it's not nice, why are we saying it? What do we expect to gain by unnecessarily spreading hurtful information about someone else, even if what we're saying is true.
I also don't spread "news" unless it's true, and if I'm not totally sure I always clarify that. Also, I keep a secret very well. If someone asks me not to tell something they told me, my lips are sealed. In my job I have to deal with confidential information, so maybe I feel a little restrained in that way and use other things as an outlet. My main downfall is talking about my opinion of someone. I like psychology and I'm an analytical person so I like to try to figure people out. So my gossip is mostly talking to my husband, sister, or good friend and telling them what this person said or how they behaved, etc. and then analyze the situation. Whatever the reason I do it, I've realized lately I need to cut back because right now my sister and husband think my good friend is a Moderator cut: inappropriate because of some of the stories I tell about her, when in fact she's a good person and I like her a lot. They only think that way of her because I emphasized her less-than-admirable qualities when speaking about her to them. I'm trying to do better!
I also don't spread "news" unless it's true, and if I'm not totally sure I always clarify that. Also, I keep a secret very well. If someone asks me not to tell something they told me, my lips are sealed. In my job I have to deal with confidential information, so maybe I feel a little restrained in that way and use other things as an outlet. My main downfall is talking about my opinion of someone. I like psychology and I'm an analytical person so I like to try to figure people out. So my gossip is mostly talking to my husband, sister, or good friend and telling them what this person said or how they behaved, etc. and then analyze the situation. Whatever the reason I do it, I've realized lately I need to cut back because right now my sister and husband think my good friend is a Moderator cut: orphaned because of some of the stories I tell about her, when in fact she's a good person and I like her a lot. They only think that way of her because I emphasized her less-than-admirable qualities when speaking about her to them. I'm trying to do better!
We've all been guilty of that at one time or another!
Also, I keep a secret very well. If someone asks me not to tell something they told me, my lips are sealed.
I really admire that. I have to say -- with all due humility -- that I do, too. I do gossip, in spite of the fact that I know I shouldn't, and I'm also overly critical, not only of other people but of myself. On the other hand, if someone says, "I'm telling you this in confidence," they don't have to worry and wonder if I'm going to break that confidence. I just won't do it, no matter what the circumstances. Period.
The majority of them, general delusion and deception would seem like the biggest "sin".
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Unbelief and disobedience
-- that I do, too. I do gossip, in spite of the fact that I know I shouldn't, and I'm also overly critical, not only of other people but of myself. On the other hand, if someone says, "I'm telling you this in confidence," they don't have to worry and wonder if I'm going to break that confidence. I just won't do it, no matter what the circumstances. Period.
