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Thanks for your response. I think you're misinterpreting my shock. It baffles me for what's offered in the area, compared to Chicago. I understand having higher rent in NYC given the lifestyle and that it's a massive city with a ton of opportunity. It has nothing to do with the rent price itself, but what's offered in the area for that cost. That was my point. We wouldn't be living paycheck to paycheck or accumulating debilitating debt.
If you could afford Manhattan and your boyfriend doesn't mind the commute I would do NYC.
As another woman I would not want to see you live above 100-105 street and up. It's not as safe an area in Manhattan south of 100th Street.
Here is what I did for you. As a woman myself I would not want to see a young woman move to an unsafe area.....especially an area they are new to. I am one of the few woman on here. The guys on here will all say "those places with the higher crime are fine". They could say that because they are men......when did you ever hear of a man getting raped or worse. The site where I could pin point the crime in a specific part of a city is not on the City Data website and I can not put the link. I will send you the name of the link in private message.
I will not apologize to anyone for keeping another woman safe....sorry City-Data guys.
So many posters on here will say "this section or that section of New Haven is fine". Great...when they give me a specific area of New Haven I will do the same thing as the pic above showing the crime in the different areas.
As another woman I would not want to see you live above 100-105 street and up. It's not as safe an area in Manhattan south of 100th Street.
That's a broad generalization. Morningside Heights is very safe.
I had a friend in the 100's on the west side and they lived in a VERY nice and expensive building. She walked her dog alone at night constantly for 5+ years with no issue.
That's a broad generalization. Morningside Heights is very safe.
I had a friend in the 100's on the west side and they lived in a VERY nice and expensive building. She walked her dog alone at night constantly for 5+ years with no issue.
I feel NYC is more suitable with OP given the fact that urban life is more familiar. uptown
near Harlem is reasonable choice but OP needs to be street smart and do more research on NYC area.
I worked in uptown for a year using Harlem 125 street station to commute back to New Haven area. The fear I had (male) initially largely reduced after this one year experience. Sure, Harlem near the 125 station is challenged, but just to be street smart, always use Uber/lyft after 7 pm or dark, and maybe even going to Grand Central Germinal when office had late party. Everything worked out fine.
West harlem is a lot safer. Somewhere below Mt Sinai 108 st. area is safe too. So Harlem and NYC in general is reasonable choice and reverse commute back to CT is doable.
When I said expensive, I meant that you will get a smaller/older space for a comparable rent in the city vs Stamford/Norwalk. I did not suggest living paycheck to paycheck, or "debilitating debt." And I suggested doing this for only a few years. Although we now love Connecticut for our family, I don't think we would trade our city years for anything. Some people couldn't care less about that kind of experience, whereas others (like the OP) seem to place high value on it.
I'm sticking to my guns, Alan. Unless they have tons of disposable income (which indeed they may), and given the age range, I don't advise unnecesarry tack on costs that are better invested elsewhere. A 401k, a Roth, a 529 for future childrens' college, a home purchase, or general wealth building and I'm not a financial advisor, just use common sense. Folks in that age range are generally reluctant to give up a car.
I understand you build fond memories and you only live once, I get it.
That's a broad generalization. Morningside Heights is very safe.
I had a friend in the 100's on the west side and they lived in a VERY nice and expensive building. She walked her dog alone at night constantly for 5+ years with no issue.
You said this: "I had a friend in the 100's on the west side and they lived in a VERY nice and expensive building. She walked her dog alone at night constantly for 5+ years with no issue."
Was it near the Central Park and what is the exact location?
You said it was an "expensive building" so I sure that the area would be safer.
If you had a daughter wouldn't you want her to be in the safest area possible upon arriving to a new area/city (even if it is a smaller apartment) AND THEN after a while let her figure out if she wants to be in the "iffy" areas of that city.
I do agree that close to the Central Park above 100th street is better but once you go even higher and start fanning out....well.
You said this: "I had a friend in the 100's on the west side and they lived in a VERY nice and expensive building. She walked her dog alone at night constantly for 5+ years with no issue."
Was it near the Central Park and what is the exact location?
You said it was an "expensive building" so I sure that the area would be safer.
If you had a daughter wouldn't you want her to be in the safest area possible upon arriving to a new area/city (even if it is a smaller apartment) AND THEN after a while let her figure out if she wants to be in the "iffy" areas of that city.
I do agree that close to the Central Park above 100th street is better but once you go even higher and start fanning out....well.
Lots of people do not consider "Morningside Heights" as part of Harlem. The commute from that district to Harlem 125 stations sucks. I would rather consider Mid town Manhattan in stead of that and reverse directly from GCT to CT. Let's not forget that on Metro North train, GCT is only 10 minutes away from Harlem 125 station.
One thing I do agree, the reputation of Morningside heights is better than Harlem.
Sure, Mid town Manhattan aprtments cost more money. If money is an issue, OP should not consider NYC as an option, should just rent a place in Fairfield county instead to be closer to the job. The saved money can be spent on weekend trips to NYC for whatever events and entertainment.
You said this: "I had a friend in the 100's on the west side and they lived in a VERY nice and expensive building. She walked her dog alone at night constantly for 5+ years with no issue."
Was it near the Central Park and what is the exact location?
You said it was an "expensive building" so I sure that the area would be safer.
If you had a daughter wouldn't you want her to be in the safest area possible upon arriving to a new area/city (even if it is a smaller apartment) AND THEN after a while let her figure out if she wants to be in the "iffy" areas of that city.
I do agree that close to the Central Park above 100th street is better but once you go even higher and start fanning out....well.
I actually wasn't the person who posted that. Please check when you post.
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