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A guy I know said things kept disappearing from the house and were all stacked up in the garage. Wife told him she was going to have a garage sale and get rid of some stuff. Then he came home one day and found all that was left were his recliner, the tv, a lamp, and a note saying they were getting divorced.
Some of us would very much prefer to have a lifelong partner, but have zero interest in parenthood. I am one such case. In hindsight, child-free marriages are especially unstable, because they don't FEEL like marriages. They can still work, if both spouses have rewarding careers, through which they derive fulfillment. But if they don't, the marriage is at risk.
Maybe there is hope for humanity, after all?
This is true, but I've seen marriages collapse according to the above-mentioned dynamic, where there were no children, where both spouses worked full-time, where the domestic chores were split between the two partners or were done by hired-help. The marriage collapsed because the wife just didn't feel "married"... it felt more like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship than a "real family". And if it wasn't a real family, why stay?
That does stand to reason, but exceptions abound. In my case, it was the question of kids. My ex and I were both child-free... while dating, and for years into the marriage. Well, after 8 years of marriage, she decided that she wanted a child, after all. That precipitated divorce. Today she's remarried, with a toddler, and she reports being "happy" as a stay-at-home-mom.
This is not necessarily true. My husband and I are child free and are far from unstable. What you're referring to is someone who originally wanted to be child free but then lo and behold one day the biological clock starts ticking and they change their mind. Which is fine, but clearly it ends up being a dealbreaker if your partner isn't in agreement about it.
Some are fine being child free and it was shown child free couples are actually happier than those with children. Likely because the marriage is about each other and doesn't have as much stress from taking care of children. I'm not taking anything away from parents, it's a hard job to balance a successful marriage and children. These things all boil down to proper communication and knowing yourself enough to be brutally honest about your wants and needs.
This is not necessarily true. My husband and I are child free and are far from unstable. What you're referring to is someone who originally wanted to be child free but then lo and behold one day the biological clock starts ticking and they change their mind. Which is fine, but clearly it ends up being a dealbreaker if your partner isn't in agreement about it.
Some are fine being child free and it was shown child free couples are actually happier than those with children. Likely because the marriage is about each other and doesn't have as much stress from taking care of children. I'm not taking anything away from parents, it's a hard job to balance a successful marriage and children. These things all boil down to proper communication and knowing yourself enough to be brutally honest about your wants and needs.
Totally agree here...
No kids
No desire
No trust funds
No minnie vans
Marriage is a archaic ritual who's time has come and gone. Marriage was started for 2 main reasons. Taxation. It was easier to track down and collect taxes from two people at a time than to chase down to single people. The second was to limit the spread of sickness and disease. Let this unholy union of two people who have no business being together die it's death and fade into obscurity like so many archaic rituals before it.
Marriage is a archaic ritual who's time has come and gone. Marriage was started for 2 main reasons. Taxation. It was easier to track down and collect taxes from two people at a time than to chase down to single people. The second was to limit the spread of sickness and disease. Let this unholy union of two people who have no business being together die it's death and fade into obscurity like so many archaic rituals before it.
Sounds like you're bitter about a relationship....still stinging from a divorce?
Sounds like you're bitter about a relationship....still stinging from a divorce?
I am not bitter at all. I have never been married. I was engaged once but once I regained my sanity I put a stop to that. I am in a long term relationship for nearly ten years with a woman I have known since we were children. We grew up across the street from each other. Our lives went in different directions. She married at a young age and I dated and had a good ol' time. Her marriage was terrible. She got a divorce. The majority of my friends are on second and third marriages. Family members of mine have gone through several divorces. The institution of marriage just doesn't work anymore.
I am not bitter at all. I have never been married. I was engaged once but once I regained my sanity I put a stop to that. I am in a long term relationship for nearly ten years with a woman I have known since we were children. We grew up across the street from each other. Our lives went in different directions. She married at a young age and I dated and had a good ol' time. Her marriage was terrible. She got a divorce. The majority of my friends are on second and third marriages. Family members of mine have gone through several divorces. The institution of marriage just doesn't work anymore.
Your previous post did sound very bitter.
There are plenty of couples out there who have been married for decades and don't have problems. I'm one of them! And I got married at 21 years old. I never thought of marriage as an institution either. That might be part of the problem those who divorce repeatedly have. That and they don't want to fix something or fight to save something.
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