Southlake - How easy it was for transplants to make friends? (Dallas: fit in, house)

[Rollingon]

We are a family of 4 weighing a move to Southlake from NJ. Our 2 kids are in elementary, my job is not restricted to a location and wife can move with her job to office in Dallas. We have been living in US for 20 years. Love diversity of culture, thoughts and perspectives. Not politically inclined but lean fiscally conservative or prudent

[Threestep2]

Originally Posted by Rollingon

We are a family of 4 weighing a move to Southlake from NJ. Our 2 kids are in elementary, my job is not restricted to a location and wife can move with her job to office in Dallas. We have been living in US for 20 years. Love diversity of culture, thoughts and perspectives. Not politically inclined but lean fiscally conservative or prudent

Look at a map please - you plan to move to Southlake and your wife plans to work in Dallas?

[MurphyPl1]

"Love diversity of culture, thoughts and perspectives."

You need to google Southlake.

[tcualum]

I hope you're white. Southlake has issues with racism. Also, the city is the opposite of diverse in every way.

[Rollingon]

Thanks for those who pointed out racism. I'm not white and read about Southlake in the news and its stand on CRT. Having worked in corporate America I have witnessed both passive and invisible racism in the biggest financial institutions in NJ/NY from people of all color against each other. I believe its a fact of life and life is short! When I travelled to Europe for education I had friends of all color from all different nationalities and I realized as long as we are aligned on common interests and perspectives/ wants in life we can all get by (I am not into politics and don't let others views bother me as long as we are friends). My college friends are raising families and visit us in the USA and when they do our house represents a United Colors of Benetton commercial.

Regarding the question around time to travel to office - To further clarity wife would be traveling twice a week to Downtown Dallas (Google maps says 30 mins). My current job requires me to be in closer proximity to Airport. Our other option is to move to Livingston NJ where my wife's commute would be brutal and easily 3 times the estimated 30 mins we expect in Dallas. Cost of house, property taxes is similar for both location where Dallas has an advantage in terms of age of property and sq. footage.

[Lz_2022]

Originally Posted by MurphyPl1

"Love diversity of culture, thoughts and perspectives."

You need to google Southlake.

This right here.

[Lz_2022]

Grapevine/Carrollton. Stretch to far west Plano if the budget allows. (Although I’d you’re looking Southlake it totally does).

[Pilsn3r]

CRT was not taught in the past or present in Southlake schools. Again, Southlake has numerous documented issues with racism that includes children in schools and you have 2 kids. Southlake is not Europe.

If youre fine with racism and have no issue with it cause it's a ”fact of life and life is short", then you'll be fine in southlake. And if you do not really care about "diversity of thoughts, culture and perspectives" because "as
long as we are aligned on common interests and perspectives/ wants in life we can all get by" you'll be fine in Southlake.

I'm sure you know how map driving estimates work and 30 minutes means she won't be commuting during any of the rush hour times.

[Lz_2022]

Originally Posted by Pilsn3r

CRT was not taught in the past or present in Southlake schools. Again, Southlake has numerous documented issues with racism that includes children in schools and you have 2 kids. Southlake is not Europe.

If youre fine with racism and have no issue with it cause it's a ”fact of life and life is short", then you'll be fine in southlake. And if you do not really care about "diversity of thoughts, culture and perspectives" because "as
long as we are aligned on common interests and perspectives/ wants in life we can all get by" you'll be fine in Southlake.

I'm sure you know how map driving estimates work and 30 minutes means she won't be commuting during any of the rush hour times.

I’m pretty sure the OP reference to CRT theory was in the other direction.

[TurtleCreek80]

Originally Posted by Rollingon

We are a family of 4 weighing a move to Southlake from NJ. Our 2 kids are in elementary, my job is not restricted to a location and wife can move with her job to office in Dallas. We have been living in US for 20 years. Love diversity of culture, thoughts and perspectives. Not politically inclined but lean fiscally conservative or prudent

You wrote a very short OP so I assume that finding a place that genuinely loves diversity of culture, thought, and perspectives is VERY high on your list when looking for a new community to call home.

Southlake is the antithesis of what you are looking for. It is an extremely white, extremely Christian, extremely wealthy suburb whose dominant force is fighting tooth and nail against any culture, thoughts and perspectives that don’t fit into their mold.

It’s not just the recent anti-CRT stuff. It’s a decades long history of bold racism towards black residents. I highly recommend doing a thorough Google search to gather some baseline knowledge before deciding where to call home in the Dallas area.

Depending on your wife’s exact work location in Dallas, some suburbs that do meet your search criteria + great schools include Coppell, Flower Mound, Plano & Richardson. Many neighborhoods in the city of Dallas could work too with a combination of neighborbood elementary school + magnet / choice or neighborhood middle and high school depending on the exact neighborhood. Most of Dallas proper is suburban looking/feeling - like Riverdale or Westchester County, not Manhattan.