How do you tell a woman she needs to get in shape ? (supplement, rollerblading)
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some people dont workout or go to the gym because they dont have support
no need for name calling or serving slim fast to her
and besides all that dont you think outa shape people know they are outa shape...when people re badgered about something they already know it doesnt help
Don't tell me "you don't" ! There has to be some way to bring it up and encourage / support , ask them to loose weight and get in shape without hurting their feelings. I know being pushy or rude is no way to go but somebody has had to have hit on the exact combination of timing and words to pull it off
Knowing who this woman is to you will go a long way here in what approach to take. Is this woman a girlfriend, a relative, just a friend or coworker. What does this person mean to you on a personal level. I doubt if your wife will divorce you for telling her she needs to get in shape, and a relative will always be your relative regardless what they think of your opinion. But, I will suggest taking them to the gym with you.
Yep, if it's your girlfriend you should invite her to the gym and get her started on a personalized training program. Tell her she already has a great butt or legs (or whatever) and say that this will really enhance what she's got going on.
Involve her in walking, hiking, climbing, swimming, golfing, biking, tennis; whatever it is that you think SHE will enjoy.
Then stay with her on it. Be positive and make it fun.
A lot of people secretly want to get in shape but are intimidated by the process.
In real life, my husband does this with me. We both enjoy this aspect of our relationship.
Invite her to do different activities with you, change your eating habits and hope she follows your lead.
THEN,you can say "This lifestyle change makes me feel so much better about myself...and you are looking pretty darn good too".
It doesn't matter if there aren't any real results. You will reinforce that lifestyle with positive feedback.
If you tell her she needs to lose weight, you are going to ruin her confidence and your sex life.
I would only tell a woman you actually care about something like this. So if you can't live without her or aren't her health care provider, just mind your own business. The fact that you said "she needs to get in shape" tells me you don't care all that much: in shape for what or whom? For herself or for you?
I wouldn't mention it to someone who I didn't care about AND I wouldn't mention it to someone who I haven't developed the appropriate rapport with to discuss a sensitive topic like that. As it has been said already, people who are fat know they're fat.
I had an ex-boyfriend (emphasis on ex) tell me I should lose weight, and it was not in a nice way. His behavior was often ambivalent though, because he would chide me for eating something like a grilled cheese sandwich, but then try to feed me when he could see changes in my body from losing weight or that I was trying to make healthier choices.
Yep, if it's your girlfriend you should invite her to the gym and get her started on a personalized training program. Tell her she already has a great butt or legs (or whatever) and say that this will really enhance what she's got going on.
Involve her in walking, hiking, climbing, swimming, golfing, biking, tennis; whatever it is that you think SHE will enjoy.
Then stay with her on it. Be positive and make it fun.
A lot of people secretly want to get in shape but are intimidated by the process.
In real life, my husband does this with me. We both enjoy this aspect of our relationship.
Yep. Some people are going to be much more likely to stick with certain kinds of exercise methods and types. For a large and varied number of reasons.
The key is finding out what this is for a person. Largely through trial and error and talking to them about it.
For example I know a girl who is an amazing swimmer. And has far less trouble sticking with that, then certain others things shes tried eg. gym membership, hiking. Thats just one example. Different for everyone.
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