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Where can I find a women who isn't grossly overweight who isn't obsessed with looks? lol. I'm sure they're out there, but an annoyingly high percentage seem to be like this. Even fat women are miserable about it, or jealous, even as they can't control their appetites. If you're gonna be fat and not change, at least don't be miserable about it.
Try women from less industralized nations where majority of the time is spent worrying over how to keep a roof over their head or how to escape their country. How attractive do you generally find women of less industrialized nations?
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Originally Posted by Trimac20
Maybe it's where I live. The closest US equivalent would be San Diego. This place is full of blonde (or at least mentally, sorry to blondes for using this stereotype) suburbanites...all my classmates seem to be getting married, having kids, buying houses in the 'burbs. Go to any dating site and the girls are just interested in going to the beach, the pub, clubbing and that's about it. The more intellectual ones just strike me as more snobby, and they're just as caught up in the body image thing. Bleh, that's why I wanna move to Melbourne ASAP.
Maybe because the more intellectual ones realize that in order to get things done or get ahead, you have to at least fit in or excel at what the crowd values or excel at it just to show what a joke it all really is.
What I'd like to know is this: Why is society (Western society in particular), so obsessed with having the "perfect body type," and yet obesity rates in many countries are high or rising? There is a MAJOR disconnect between what the media touts and what is seen in reality.
Obviously we live in a time where humans have become extremely vain, narcissistic, superficial, and self-absorbed. All we can do is refuse to be like this, and those who have kids-- teach them real values.. don't worship celebrities, and don't feed into the consumer culture that dictates that we be this way.
What I'd like to know is this: Why is society (Western society in particular), so obsessed with having the "perfect body type," and yet obesity rates in many countries are high or rising? There is a MAJOR disconnect between what the media touts and what is seen in reality.
My sister calls it the 'shame spiral'. You get picked on for being too fat, too thin, too tall, too short etc. and you resort to ultimately self destructive ways of making yourself feel 'better'. Then, you realize you're even deeper in the hole and farther away from being deemed acceptable so at that point you just keep being self destructive because 'why bother'?
I have a friend who lost a TON of weight (200 or so lbs) and now that she's thin she still gets made fun of for her extra skin. So, she lost the weight and she's still not attractive. At this point, she says she'd rather be fat again because at least then people could see that she was fat, now people see a thin person and it's a shock when it's revealed that she has a lot of sagging skin.
What I'd like to know is this: Why is society (Western society in particular), so obsessed with having the "perfect body type," and yet obesity rates in many countries are high or rising? There is a MAJOR disconnect between what the media touts and what is seen in reality.
Sugar is an addiction, like all other addictions... And, you don't need to be skinny to be obsessed with your looks. No matter what your size is, you can still go for a regular mani-pedi, spend an hour on your hair and makeup every day, and there are more and more stores with plus size fashion. Yo-yo dieting is probably the missing link for that disconnect you see, though. Yet another way to obsess about your appearance, overindulge in sweets, then fast and detox your system... lather, rinse, repeat.
How many guys are just sick and tired of how almost every women seems to be so wrapped up in body image?
It doesnt bother me at all. I think its great that women care about their bodies (i.e., their health) and how they look. Its a great self confidence thing. I very rarely ever ever ever ever ever come across a woman who has taken it to an extreme. Even here in Los Angeles where people who dont live here, mistakenly THINK that everyone is wrapped up in body image. People care of course, but from what I see, people are quite active to do something about it. Was hanging at the local Starbucks Christmas eve morning and during the course of an hour, I must have seen a couple of hundred women come through wearing their Lululemon Athletica workout gear showing just how good they look and how much confidence they have in themseleves.
Sugar is an addiction, like all other addictions... And, you don't need to be skinny to be obsessed with your looks. No matter what your size is, you can still go for a regular mani-pedi, spend an hour on your hair and makeup every day, and there are more and more stores with plus size fashion. Yo-yo dieting is probably the missing link for that disconnect you see, though. Yet another way to obsess about your appearance, overindulge in sweets, then fast and detox your system... lather, rinse, repeat.
True, obsession isn't limited to one body type or weight. However, even within the media there are a lot of [false] dichotomies. I've seen commercials portraying the dangers of anorexia/bulimia, and then right after, they show ones that talk about the dangers of obesity/binging. I think all the obsessions and mixed messages have at least in part, led to ridiculous stereotypes.
Example 1: very slim = healthy; curves = fat.
Example 2: curvaceous = healthy; slim = anorexic
Example 3: Being overweight means laziness; being healthy means jumping through hoops (expensive health foods, complicated workout regimens)
I guess my point is that society wants to pigeonhole everyone into one extreme or another, and if you don't fit neatly, people are baffled.
My sister calls it the 'shame spiral'. You get picked on for being too fat, too thin, too tall, too short etc. and you resort to ultimately self destructive ways of making yourself feel 'better'. Then, you realize you're even deeper in the hole and farther away from being deemed acceptable so at that point you just keep being self destructive because 'why bother'?
I have a friend who lost a TON of weight (200 or so lbs) and now that she's thin she still gets made fun of for her extra skin. So, she lost the weight and she's still not attractive. At this point, she says she'd rather be fat again because at least then people could see that she was fat, now people see a thin person and it's a shock when it's revealed that she has a lot of sagging skin.
Did she lose the weight slowly or rapidly? Generally the quicker the weight is lost, and/or the older the person, the more likely skin sagging is to occur. This might be an interesting read for your friend, but since I'm not a physician, I can't entirely vouch for or against its validity. The Myth of Loose Skin
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