The Majority of People could be attractive if they just put in a little effort. (washed, natural)
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I agree we could all lose a few pounds and dress a bit better. I remember the days when guys would wear jackets and ties to dinner etc.. My wife who is European has photos of her Dad from 30 years ago and he wore a tie sailing. Americans are generally slobby and what is it with over weight women wearing clothes that are way too tight with the word "Juicy" on the butt ??
It is a lack of pride that has so many dressing like bums. Of course having a good attitude goes a long way to looking good.
But some people don't want to "dress up". I like wearing jeans, a tshirt and tennis shoes or sandals, sometimes a maxi dress. Heels are uncomfortable and it's so windy where I live, wearing a shorter dress is asking for trouble. I don't go out to attract others.
So many people think "dressing up" is this huge thing. I went out for coffee over the weekend and the worker was like you are so dressed up! Where are you going? And i was going somewhere (brunch), but my dress is made of stretchy cotton and feels like PJs. And a cardigan. So it might have looked like I was making a "huge" effort. But reality is that it was no more complicated than putting on jeans and a t-shirt. In fact it was less complicated.
But some people don't want to "dress up". I like wearing jeans, a tshirt and tennis shoes or sandals, sometimes a maxi dress. Heels are uncomfortable and it's so windy where I live, wearing a shorter dress is asking for trouble. I don't go out to attract others.
I think people are misinterpreting what I am trying to say here. This isn't a diss at Americans at all, Western anglo countries as a whole could learn some grooming tips. I am not saying you should spend all your energy on your appearance or dress up like your going to the club every time you go out. All I am saying is eating healthy, grooming, and styling yourself nicely can go a long way. I used the 50s/60s as an example because I remember going through a relatives pics of when she was young and I was struck at how pretty and healthy everyone look. No one was supermodel beautiful but they all looked well groomed, and put together. I am sorry if I come across as condescending, I definitely know what its like to be drowned by work and the struggles of being overweight. Please don't take this thread as diss but more as an encouragement, because when you look good you FEEL good. Trust me on that.
I think people are misinterpreting what I am trying to say here. This isn't a diss at Americans at all, Western anglo countries as a whole could learn some grooming tips. I am not saying you should spend all your energy on your appearance or dress up like your going to the club every time you go out. All I am saying is eating healthy, grooming, and styling yourself nicely can go a long way. I used the 50s/60s as an example because I remember going through a relatives pics of when she was young and I was struck at how pretty and healthy everyone look. No one was supermodel beautiful but they all looked well groomed, and put together. I am sorry if I come across as condescending, I definitely know what its like to be drowned by work and the struggles of being overweight. Please don't take this thread as diss but more as an encouragement, because when you look good you FEEL good. Trust me on that.
I think the folks who don't feel like putting in effort are viewing this as an extreme (as in they should spend all time and energy dressing up) in order to justify the lack of effort on their part
I had a guy friend who fell in love with France when he went to visit. He said the women were typically thin, well dressed albeit a lot of them smoked(where he visited at least).
Some of the posters are really thinking in extremes.
And since this post is likely offensive to them, they're overreacting quite a bit
I'm not really a fan of makeup. Almost any woman can look sexy with makeup, known fact. Take the makeup away and there is a different story. I like my woman to be naturally beauties.
Yes, there are plenty of people that simply do not care. They have their reasons though, maybe they are married, so they have no need to look good. Single people that want to go dating will generally take care of themselves, people that don't want to date or want to remain single could probably care less.
Europe and Brazil don't have the same genetics.............and what if you're not of European stock?
I guess the unfortunates among us are just consigned to an ugly existence.
What I meant by similar genetics that many Americans share the same genetics as Europeans and Brazilians. Thus dismissing any claim that Americans are naturally less attractive then their South american or European counterparts. The USA is a melting pot, there is little bit of everything here.
...This isn't a diss at Americans at all, Western anglo countries as a whole could learn some grooming tips...
Oh, okay - it's ALL "Western countries" that need to look like those fashionable Europeans and Brazilians . Now the topic has moved from poor fashion to poor grooming. I don't know why we socially unacceptable Westerners even leave our homes.
BTW - which countries are those "Western anglo countries" - any of them in Europe (must be the ugly part of Europe).
I'm not really a fan of makeup. Almost any woman can look sexy with makeup, known fact. Take the makeup away and there is a different story. I like my woman to be naturally beauties.
Yes, there are plenty of people that simply do not care. They have their reasons though, maybe they are married, so they have no need to look good. Single people that want to go dating will generally take care of themselves, people that don't want to date or want to remain single could probably care less.
I definitely agree with you on makeup. I think too many young women over due it on the makeup and rely on it to cover up their flaws. I told my sister who has suffered from acne all her life to cool it on the makeup and let her face breathe. The only thing she put on her face for months was skin regiment which helped nourish her face. Within six months her face cleared and never looked better! Makeup is wonderful because it helps emphasis feminine features on a women's face but a women should never be ashamed of her natural beauty and nourish it daily.
As for your second point, I am not encouraging people to put in little more effort solely for the opposite sex. I take care of myself by eating right, grooming myself, and exercising daily for no one but MYSELF. Attracting members of the opposite sex are the last thing on my mind when I partake in these activities. My wellbeing and making sure I live a long and happy LIFE is. You don't truly love the person your marrying of you only try to look sexy just so he'll marry you, how lame is that? If my boyfriend and I ever get married I will continue to maintain my grooming routine because one I am doing for MYSELF, not so I can trap him into marrying me. How lame do you have to be to do that?
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. Now the topic has moved from poor fashion to poor grooming. I don't know why we socially unacceptable Westerners even leave our homes.
