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Aren't most people frugal in some areas, and not in others?
Some people seem to think or imply that unless you're frugal, in every. single. area. of. your. life. -- or with every. single. purchase. you EVER. make. in. life. -- well then you're not frugal. I think many times people have binders on. And unless you're frugal in the same way THEY are frugal, you're not frugal.
I don't believe you have to be frugal in every purchase in life, to be a frugal person.
If 90 percent of things you buy, you buy in a frugal manner, but you like cars, or clothes or travel or whatever and in those instances you're not concerned about cost, so what? Now you're not frugal in general? Give me a break.
I'm a shoe collector (Jordans), but as i get older, I buy them less and less. However, i think it's stupid for people to BUY used shoes for $200 and wear them. I think that's gross.
when your frugalness starts to make other people close to you miserable you crossed that line .
In what way? Riddle me this then,my cousin gets uncomfortable using paper plates and plastic ware. Gets uppity if the bathroom tissue isn't charmin. Will not drink tap water.. Only spring water. Scoffs if the trash bags aren't a particular grade. So I am to change my frugal ways to appease ppl of this nature?
I recycle certain items... I find a repurpose. Old ties, made into pillow covers. Old sheets, placemats. If that makes a person uncomfortable... Maybe they need to check themselves.
I remain reasonable in my habits to waste not want not. I stopped buying into the advertising and marketing ploys... Bottom line is I am not saving anything if I am buying into these ploys. Accounting 101, you spend its a deficit, there is no column to say adjust for saving xyz...
I think we all know everything is situational….
If my cousin and I have different "spending" or "frugality" habits -- and long as s/he doesn't live with me….for me anyway…it's just a topic of discussion or a "difference" between us. IF I stay at her house for a visit or she stays at mine -- we may each think the other goes overboard in a given direction but….so what….it shouldn't rise to the level of causing friction between us….or making one of us miserable.
BUT, I dare say that if your SPOUSE, or even a roommate has different frugality habits, ONE of you is going to have to constantly work on accepting or putting up with, or ignoring, or holding-in the urge to say something about the thing that bothers you. THAT is what could make a person miserable.
If you live with a person who:
-- wants to use paper plates -- when YOU would prefer to
-- reminds you that you didn't get Charmin.
-- scoffs if the trash bags aren't a particular grade…..
YOU'd either have to let that roll off your back…or it could start to bother you. And who wants to live with that niggling aggravation….now if that spouses traits don't bother you -- fine. But what if they do? They could make you miserable.
In what way? Riddle me this then,my cousin gets uncomfortable using paper plates and plastic ware. Gets uppity if the bathroom tissue isn't charmin. Will not drink tap water.. Only spring water. Scoffs if the trash bags aren't a particular grade. So I am to change my frugal ways to appease ppl of this nature?
I recycle certain items... I find a repurpose. Old ties, made into pillow covers. Old sheets, placemats. If that makes a person uncomfortable... Maybe they need to check themselves.
I remain reasonable in my habits to waste not want not. I stopped buying into the advertising and marketing ploys... Bottom line is I am not saving anything if I am buying into these ploys. Accounting 101, you spend its a deficit, there is no column to say adjust for saving xyz...
This isn't a matter of frugality. Your cousin is a rude guest. If he/she wants nicer things, then he/she should bring his/her own or buy some while he/she is there.
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Originally Posted by selhars
I think we all know everything is situational….
If my cousin and I have different "spending" or "frugality" habits -- and long as s/he doesn't live with me….for me anyway…it's just a topic of discussion or a "difference" between us. IF I stay at her house for a visit or she stays at mine -- we may each think the other goes overboard in a given direction but….so what….it shouldn't rise to the level of causing friction between us….or making one of us miserable.
BUT, I dare say that if your SPOUSE, or even a roommate has different frugality habits, ONE of you is going to have to constantly work on accepting or putting up with, or ignoring, or holding-in the urge to say something about the thing that bothers you. THAT is what could make a person miserable.
If you live with a person who:
-- wants to use paper plates -- when YOU would prefer to
-- reminds you that you didn't get Charmin.
-- scoffs if the trash bags aren't a particular grade…..
YOU'd either have to let that roll off your back…or it could start to bother you. And who wants to live with that niggling aggravation….now if that spouses traits don't bother you -- fine. But what if they do? They could make you miserable.
Compromise is a part of being married or having a roommate. As long as it is easily affordable, then you can work out what suits the needs and desires of your household better. If you can't easily afford it, then what are you willing to give up to have it? Some battles are simply not worth it. Destroying a relationship over a small amount of money isn't worth it.
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