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...We spoke to her and she said something noncommittal like we're neighbors, I have your back, blah blah. ....Why can't she leave my lawn alone? ...Is she bored? Lonely? Needing exercise? ...she's polite, doesn't say well it looked horrid or anything like that. When I said I didn't mind, she seemed almost happy, but the husband wasn't having it. If she told me the truth, I'd know how to deal with it but it makes no sense otherwise.
All of the above and more..
It makes her feel good that she is helping you?
Maybe you remind her of her family and she wants to help you? She likes you?
Beginning of senility? They sometimes feel like being young again...- so she is helping an “older couple”- you?
You could be mean and yelled at her?
Being understanding and nice is better! She means well...
I would try to bring her fresh baked cookies or invite her for tea- just the 2 of you- chat, spend a half hour with her, etc
Then thank her for doing such a great job helping you, but
1)
- your husband loves cutting his lawn and has nothing to do if the lawn is cut already, makes him grumpy?
2)
- Your insurance agent drove by, saw her mowing your lawn and now wants to increase your liability limit and charge you more for homeowners insurance as you use someone’s help...
You had to promise the insurance agent that it would not happen again!
It may convince her- some people defer to an “authority” and she may buy that she is costing you more money...( unless she is in the early stages and forgets that you told you to stop mowing?- you out of luck then, have to just cut your lawn before she does it?- or yelled at her- but talk to police first- she may start accusing you of things- that is another stage of dementia)
Ask her if you could raise the mower. And I would offer to pay for gas.
I wish I had this neighbor.
Jeepers it's just a lawn..
Wow!
I've had a similar situation with four neighbors whose yard borders mine. They are not mowing my entire yard, only part of it on the border. Three of them mow their grass on the lowest setting on the mower. I mow mine on the highest, or next to highest setting. With two of the neighbors, the border is not clear. With the other two there is a stake in the ground where the three yards come together. I think some people actually think they are doing you a favor. I have had to plant grass where they have mowed down to the dirt. With the one neighbor, there is a hillside between our houses. A riding lawn mower will gauge the grass when tyring to mow on an angle on the hillside.
What I have attempted to do is mow the border areas more often to preempt their mowing. Sometimes it works, and other times it doesn't. It is worse when they hire a lawn service because the lawn service will mow to what they think is the border regardless of whether I mowed that area the previous day. A couple neigbors seemed to get the message when I would but down some dirt and grass seed on areas where the grass got destroyed. I found some bright colored mulch to cover it so they would be sure to notice.
I've had a similar situation with four neighbors whose yard borders mine. They are not mowing my entire yard, only part of it on the border. Three of them mow their grass on the lowest setting on the mower. I mow mine on the highest, or next to highest setting. With two of the neighbors, the border is not clear. With the other two there is a stake in the ground where the three yards come together. I think some people actually think they are doing you a favor. I have had to plant grass where they have mowed down to the dirt. With the one neighbor, there is a hillside between our houses. A riding lawn mower will gauge the grass when tyring to mow on an angle on the hillside.
What I have attempted to do is mow the border areas more often to preempt their mowing. Sometimes it works, and other times it doesn't. It is worse when they hire a lawn service because the lawn service will mow to what they think is the border regardless of whether I mowed that area the previous day. A couple neigbors seemed to get the message when I would but down some dirt and grass seed on areas where the grass got destroyed. I found some bright colored mulch to cover it so they would be sure to notice.
Can you put down a small rock border? Or low stakes, which I think you already have, with a wire run between them. Maybe their machines will get the message if the humans don't.
This can be funny as a few others have said but really after a while it gets to be a violation. Disrupts a peaceful flow. You feel now what. You want to check the various areas that have been uprooted/destroyed/whatever. It eats into a sense of privacy. Hope it works out better for you going forward.
Can you put down a small rock border? Or low stakes, which I think you already have, with a wire run between them. Maybe their machines will get the message if the humans don't.
This can be funny as a few others have said but really after a while it gets to be a violation. Disrupts a peaceful flow. You feel now what. You want to check the various areas that have been uprooted/destroyed/whatever. It eats into a sense of privacy. Hope it works out better for you going forward.
Any kind of border would require a survey. A rock border would require additional maintenance to trim around the rocks. A wire between stakes would be a hazard to anyone mowing either side. There is one stake in the front on the one side but I can no longer find it. The other side never had a metal stake as far as I know.
This wouldn't be an issue if they mowed their grass on a higher setting. I seem to have it under control with the things I have done. Neighbors change. The third family has moved in on one side and the second on the other. I went from having the worst looking yard to the best.
In actually have five neighbors who border me. The fifth one mows their yard about twice a year. It doesn't really affect my yard. They border woods.
I like living on property where my grass ends where their driveway begins! I don't want drama over property line issues! Plus, I am private so I don't want neighbors pruning my rose bushes, mowing my lawn, over-watering my grass etc...
I've had a similar situation with four neighbors whose yard borders mine. They are not mowing my entire yard, only part of it on the border. Three of them mow their grass on the lowest setting on the mower. I mow mine on the highest, or next to highest setting. With two of the neighbors, the border is not clear. With the other two there is a stake in the ground where the three yards come together. I think some people actually think they are doing you a favor. I have had to plant grass where they have mowed down to the dirt. With the one neighbor, there is a hillside between our houses. A riding lawn mower will gauge the grass when tyring to mow on an angle on the hillside.
What I have attempted to do is mow the border areas more often to preempt their mowing. Sometimes it works, and other times it doesn't. It is worse when they hire a lawn service because the lawn service will mow to what they think is the border regardless of whether I mowed that area the previous day. A couple neigbors seemed to get the message when I would but down some dirt and grass seed on areas where the grass got destroyed. I found some bright colored mulch to cover it so they would be sure to notice.
We have some standing water issues in this area. It can rain in winter and spring to a point where there's nothing but mud. I know just where my property line is and if I see any water standing, which I sometimes do on the strip between our houses, I fill in those little depressions with soil and seed like you did. The difference is I think grass is a menace and clover is better. I've been working on mini clover since I got here. So the more grass that ends up being dirt, the more clover (and bees) we're going to have. So if her aim is a better looking lawn, she's in for a big surprise.
Clover is wonderful. Slugs love it. Found that out about age six when playing on the lawn.
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I have had to plant grass where they have mowed down to the dirt. With the one neighbor, there is a hillside between our houses. A riding lawn mower will gauge the grass when tyring to mow on an angle on the hillside.
