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I live in the south. People usually still hold the door, and I always do the same. Since I want to encourage it, I always thank them.
On a similar note, my husband switched doctors once, because the doctor’s specialty tended to have mostly older people with walkers, canes or wheelchairs, and there was no regard whatsoever for these patient’s handicaps. There was a single doorway, with no automatic opener. After a half hour in the waiting room watching folks struggle, and getting up to open the door for people, DH felt like the doctor must have no regard for the patients.
Happy likes Culver's food. They never ever hold or open the door. Sometimes there are 5 servers waiting and no customers.
Once a server went through the door when I was wrestling the double doors. Nothing. I did write to the company. Nothing....
Am I expecting to much?????
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I had to penn this down.. That's all......
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Got a positive rate, but you can not see the name. He or she did write that not everybody wil thank them. And yes, I experienced that too holding a door. But that will not stop me.
I will always thank the person(s) who open a door. Or anything else. I am just good natured they say....
I don't know. In supposedly unfriendly New York City when the throngs leave Grand Central in the morning people who are leaving look behind them to see if anyone is relatively close, and do hold the door. So the door remains open for a stream of people. And more than half do some door holding.
I didn't say it never ever happened, I said I think it's extremely rare and mostly stuff people heard about happening to a friend of a friends second cousin. And a good number of that was made up by people in order to have a reason to be angry at feminists. Are there angry, not very nice women? Sure. There are also angry, not very nice men.
Most women, just like most men, appreciate people being thoughtful. And most people, not just people in the south, try to be thoughtful.
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A gent was struggling with his grocery cart and his wheelchair parent. I noticed him heading to his car mismanaging both the cart and his parent. I approached him and said I'd be happy to wheel his mom to the car. He ,in a rough tone; said No thank you! I can do this. Yet onward he went with his mom weaving about. I just walked away wondering how hard is it to take a kind gesture.
2nd one was indeed a delight. And yes I was down south. Pulled into a little mom/pop shop. I no sooner got out of my car and a father tapped his sons shoulder and said, son, where's your manners. Close that ladys' car door and escort her to the door. I felt like a special lady that day! Young kid even tipped his hat and said, have a nice day mame'. I'm not offended in being called mame nor was offended that the young fellow obliged his father's directive. That moment restored my faith in courtesy.
I still try to hold the door for people going in and out whether they are disabled or not. I will also take someone's shopping cart back to the cart corral for them. I let people go in front of me when I'm checking out. As someone above said, the people who follow the golden rule, are much happier people. It's an attitude. https://youtu.be/DDcJiamY9N8
Again, I'm not say it doesnt happen in the South. Of course it does. Its just not limited to there. My comment is more in response to the responses that imply that the south is the only place manners still exist. That's simply not true.
Etiquette is that if someone holds the door for you and you're 'able bodied' (ie - not over 60, not under 10) then you take over and hold the door for the next person, and so on and so on.
I'm sort of an equal opportunity door holder. Doesn't matter who the other person showing up at a door at the same time is. I'll hold the door for them if I am not loaded down with something.
One of those odd little things to like about living in a cold climate is that most businesses and public buildings have an enclosed entryway that separates the main part of the store from the street. Two sets of doors. If someone holds one door open for you you have the perfect opportunity to return the favor and hold the second door open for them. Most people give a smile, make a funny gesture or a laugh as they do so. Occasionally you'll get a real sourpuss who won't thaw one bit, but thankfully they're rare around here.
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So, fine; won't make that mistake again.
